Another update:

I got the job. They called me back about an hour later telling me I can start on the 10th. Yeah!!!

Congrats Mark, at least it will keep you busy and great job on getting the lawyer involved. I know you don't want the D, I'm sorry that you have to deal with all of it. Fight for your DD.

Congrats on the job!

happy for you, hope all goes better for you, baby steps, day by day

So after getting the job on Monday, I woke up to a car that wouldn't start. It didnt bother me, though. After all I've been through, not much bothers me anymore.

One thing I've recognized is that God is using my circumstances to prepare me for something down the road. It's OKAY!!!

Went to orientation for my new/old job (I worked there 10 years ago). I start my first shift a week from Thursday. I'm so ready.

Still moving forward....

After this, I had a flat tire and just laughed it off. Nothing really bothers me much anymore. God is still in control.

Just realized tomorrow is the anniversary of the ILYBNILWY speech and the day we separated. I honestly never thought it would make a few months, let alone a year.

It's funny because right now there is no sadness or anything related to it. It's just another day that approaches. I guess that means I've really made some progress.

Just gotta keep moving....

I have a question for you vets. It has been stated over and over that ws's make horrible parents. I can't say I don't disagree but how do you use that to get the kids? Many states like Indiana don't factor in moral shortcomings in divorce and custody battles.

What you need to demonstrate are actions that are detrimental to your child. Can you make a list of things she is doing that may be harmful?

CV

The things I can think of right now are:

Bringing OM around daughter during divorce
Multiple threats to keep DD away when she doesn't get her way (documented)
Abandoning the vow of teaching DD Christian principles which could cause confusion living in 2 households (daughter was dedicated at 6mos and WW no longer goes to church)
Alienating DD from godparents who know of her actions and don't agree (they are also our pastor and his wife)
Alienation from dd's other grandmother (older woman who cared for our daughter til she was about 3 and has a close relationship with her).
Multiple reports of DD not having hair done from some that include her family (WW never used to let DD go without her hair being well taken care of

What other things are there? What else could I use to prove her actions are detrimental if moral lapse is not considered?

Update (kinda):

I know you all are going to hit me with 2x4's but a concerned family member of WW told me that just last night, WW posted pics of her and OM AND pics of DD in her underwear on FB. The first pics don't bother me but the second ones do, greatly.

Call the police. Make a report.

Get screenshots asap and give them to your attorney.

You will only get a 2x4 from me if you fail to follow through on this. Don't contact WW directly, either. Let your lawyer and law enforcement do anything that needs doing.

screen shots, immediately! And down load the pictures as proof!

I wonder if it would also help to round up a couple witnesses to see the page on FB for themselves so they can testify to it later.

Anything and everything! This girl is SEVEN YEARS OLD in her skivvies online!!!!!!!!!

Lawyer was contacted but wasn't in. I spoke with paralegal and told her. She said she didn't know what could be done but thought that I would have to have proof. I told her I wasn't a friend so I couldn't get the pics. She said I should someone who's her friend do it.

I called her stepmom, who was the one who told me about the pics, but she said that she would have to think about it and to call her back tomorrow.

I'm waiting for someone who goes to our church and is still her friend to call me back. Other than him, I don't know anyone else and I don't know what else I can do.

Also, during the conversation where the pics were brought up, stepmom told me wife called her dad discussing my fight for custody. She said her dad, who I exposed to way at the beginning and has said she deserves to be happy, told her rather bluntly that she needed to leave these guys alone and stay her a@@ at home. It seems that he now understands the gravity of what's going on with his daughter now. I tried to tell him months ago but he turned a blind eye to it.

Can you try the fake account, friending someone whose her friend and keep going till you get in?

Theres a description of how to do it somewhere on here, though not sure how long it takes

The crazy thing about it all is that my ww is a social worker. But I guess the most pertinent piece of info is that she is a wayward...that says it all.

And yes, I tried it months ago but after going into Plan B, I stopped trying to get access. I'm not so sure if I can get in...

Mark, I tried. I can't.. Besides, I think she knows my real name.

CV