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I swear women have no sense of humour sometimes

*I* thought it was funny.


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I swear women have no sense of humour sometimes

*I* thought it was funny.

*I* thought you were a woman! It's what I was always TOLD...mr eek

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Whatever you are, I am too. :p


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Originally Posted by Neak
even if they aren't from the prehistoric era like we are.

(primordial yell)

NEAK!! I resemble that remark! I'm trying very hard not to frown at you right now as I am developing a mark between my eybrows that may or may not resemble a wrinkle.

And YOU! YOU, YOU AUSSIE, YOU!!! You will set your butt down and keep your backside at home until such time as your womenfolk can't stand you anymore, or so help me, I'll put myself on an airplane and gorilla glue said hairy hinder to the front porch (where it belongs).

Z, the oldest is grown and on his own. He has a girlfriend he says is "the one," to which I sigh and say, "young love." B & L both were littles when all this started and now they are in high and middle schools, respectively. L has had the hardest time trusting ANYONE because of the turmoil that was inflicted upon him by the adultry...it really is a growth stunting experience for younglings to see. And my littles were itty bittys who only know their birth mother as someone who only makes time for them when she has nothing better to do. They know me as their mommy. I go to their school and talk to their teachers. I make their meals and nurse them when they are sick. Their art-masterpieces and 100s on spelling tests adorn MY fridge. I AM mom. HEAR ME ROAR (GWARP!) Okay. Hear me squawk.

And the Wookie. Well then. The broken hairball he was is gone...even on my worst triggering days, I cannot be angry at THIS person. He is eternally remorseful for what he's done, but he doesn't wallow. Instead, he is focused on now and future...and at this time in the grand scheme of things, that's exactly as it should be, imo.

All my love to my Brother and Sister in Oz, and all their younglings, and all THEIR younglings (an Auntie can wish for twins, too)

- Kimmy


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Originally Posted by Neak
Whatever you are, I am too. :p

So you're saying it's congenital, hereditary, and MY fault?faint In case you've forgotten biology, that 2nd X-chromosome came from your FATHER!

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>sort of gun crazy lock and load blokes, they told me it was to protect themselves from their Texas women!!



Dern skippy.

I love that you love my sister from another mother (and father). I mean I get all mushy thinking about you two. Yours really is an awesome love story. Awesome.

And that, is as squishy I'm going to be tonight.


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Welcome back and just want to say your update was so heartfelt and touching. So just thrilled and filled with joy at your wonderful update.

as the Good Book says, "therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes you will stand..and after having done EVERYTHING..TO STAND!"

Like the little tree that withstands a hurricane, and is flexible in the massive winds, you two weathered the storm and came out the other side stronger! Amen!


Change happens by listening and then starting a dialogue with the people who are doing something you don't believe is right. ~Jane Goodall
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Found this funny little joke in my old emails:

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How many dogs does it take to change a lightbulb?

1. Golden Retriever: The sun is shining, the day is young, we've got our whole lives ahead of us, and you're inside worrying about a stupid burned out bulb?
2. Border Collie: Just one. And then I'll replace any wiring that's not up to code.
3. Dachshund: You know I can't reach that stupid lamp!
4. Rottweiler: Make me.
5. Boxer: Who cares? I can still play with my squeaky toys in the dark.
6. Lab: Oh, me, me!!!!! Pleeeeeeeeeze let me change the light bulb! Can I? Can I? Huh? Huh? Huh? Can I?
Pleeeeeeeeeze, please, please, please!
7. German Shepherd: I'll change it as soon as I've led these people from the dark, check to make sure I haven't missed any, and make just one more perimeter patrol to see that no one has tried to take advantage of the situation.
8. Jack Russell Terrier: I'll just pop it in while I'm bouncing off the walls and furniture.
9. Old English Sheep Dog: Light bulb? I'm sorry, but I don't see a light bulb?
10. Cocker Spaniel: Why change it? I can still pee on the carpet in the dark.
11. Chihuahua: Yo quiero Taco Bulb.
12. Pointer: I see it, there it is, there it is, right there ...
13. Greyhound: It isn't moving. Who cares?
14. Australian Shepherd: First, I'll put all the light bulbs in a little circle ...
15. Poodle: I'll just blow in the Border Collie's ear and he'll do it. By the time he finishes rewiring the house, my nails will be dry.
The Cat's Answer: "Dogs do not change light bulbs. People change light bulbs. So, the real question is: How long will it be before I can expect some light, some dinner, and a massage?"
ALL OF WHICH PROVES, ONCE AGAIN, THAT WHILE DOGS HAVE MASTERS, CATS HAVE STAFF


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Australian Shepherd !!! wrong wrong wrong we don't have Shepards .!!! it Kelpie a KELPIE a cross bewteen a Dingo and Border Collie. Though some are more Dingo than Collie.

We have one a Black & Tan. Red Clouds are really great working dogs. I want one but she who must be obeyed says No. Never lets me have any fun. stickout

Hey KIMBERS!!! hug how your doing little sis. Life is fun when your living it. I think those wimmin folk want me to die in my bed as an old worn out bloke of 100. Can't think of anything worse! Excitement is the spice of life. laugh Of course it doesn't have to be THAT exciting all the time faint

Howdy Clueless. Hope you have been good and things are going well for you.

Peachy yes its great to REALLY be home in a lot of ways. Took a long time to get there in my head. Now days, wouldn't be dead for quids !!

OOPs gotta run have to get to the barracks by, oh about 5 mins ago and pick up the son in law. We are going to get to see some great muso's tonight, friends of my daughter, like Barnsey and some guys called eskimo joe or something like that and others. Shhhhh - She knows some WEIRD people is all I can say. And why does she have to dye her hair PURPLE ?????????????? or bright red with blonde streaky things in it ??????? And her dresses are waaaaay to short!!

Aunty Kimbers!! go talk to your neice!!!!!!! You too Neak and what about you TL. She should be wifery looking.

Oh well as long as they have beer. dance2 my cool dance moves better be going I'm late.






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Your name used to be aussie2, and in my lurking days I read pages and pages of MB from 2004-6, including your story. You and the missus were MB heroes then and you are now. You need to keep posting here and show the newcomers why a recovered marriage is worth is, and how you get there.

I am so glad you came back. For one thing, I am in the UK (London) and I think of Aussies as allies on this forum. We need to stick together and keep these Americans in their place!


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You're just jealous. :p

DD does look like a wife - the sort of wife who knows Eskimo Joe!


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well the party was ok even with those wild band blokes there, with their wives partners and BABIES!!!! Wild? they were doting new dads if you ask me. About the only wild thing they did was change a nappy. And I never do those things. So us blokes drank beer and whiskey while the young things danced and talked and talked and yes talked more. MrRollieEyes

why do women ALWAYS have to go to the loo in groups? I mean whats up with that? The wife will never say and my DD just says "Oh dad" whats Oh dad? a reason thats all I'm asking for!!
think dontknow

I knew DD's dress was too short! well actually if you ask me all the dresses were too short for the girls of friends and family! Think 2 school rulers long and that was it if you were lucky. And those stupid high heels why would a womam ever want to do that to their feet?

And who said they could grow up? I didn't! There was this sophisticated looking young woman, looked right out of a magazine, eyeing me off for ages, firey blue eyes on a mission you know the look guys right? shocked and I was thinking as she started towards me "CRAP wheres the wife!! shes probably another antiwar spitter or something or one of my blokes dumped her or whatever." mr eek

Crikey there was enough leg to have a heart attack I swear. Where was AJ around when I needed protection then ?? well Neak where was he??? Probably driving a bloody truck and I was wishing I was right next to him I was. Where was the Wookie sis yes where???? There I was like a shag on a rock crazy

So she marches and I mean marches right up to me and says "Well if you are'nt going to come say hello I'll come to you Uncle Jack!!" Uncle who I was thinking, well actually I think my mind was blank as. I was pretty sure it had nothing to do with the whiskey so I quickly had another. Ok two. Then my BIL slaps me on the back says I see Precie has caught you at last. OMG it was one of my "little" nieces. faint

It was so much easier to be able to explain to my wife why a hardly dressed young woman was jumping up into my arms. But she was all fuzzy unkept hair and teen stuff and jeans and flannel shirts, you know cute and safe from blokes!! who said she could grow up? And THEN the wife had the gall to come up and say to her she looked beautiful!!! grumble What about saying you should cover all that. you are showing far too much, well of everything!!!

Cripes she talks enough though. I have begun to suspect its a family trait on the womens side, DD is a lot like her as well, as is my newly engaged niece. Who can explain that one?
I got far to much detail on boyfriends and stuff. If I wasn't drinking and had a shotgun one of them would be a target already.

See you Dads out there, its a perfectly reasonable request by me isn't it!! When I explained it all to Mum she just said I've been spending why too much time in strange places. Never gunna understand wimmim!! Nooo

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Hiya Aussie. Nice to meet you.

Now, as to your question about why we women folk travel to the privy in pairs, it is a simply answer really. We need help. Yup, that's why. wink It's for protection really. No one approaches a couple of women the way they do one. See. Easy. And who are we gonna talk to while we are doing the deed? Maybe we do it because movies and TV shows tell us we are supposed to? I dunno, and I don't think any woman does either, it's just what we do.

And I agree, skirts are way too short, but whatcha gonna do? I am very glad I have boys though. And I think my nieces are glad they were born to my sis and SIL instead of me, because they might be wearing long skirts and baggy jeans in 40 degree summer days. grin


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Saw a poster on facebook about dads and dating.

"Shoot the first one, and word gets around."


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Actually, the Wookie has it down to a science now. He invites the lad in for a "chat" then tells him that he's a cop and knows where to hide a body....

I know because I've heard him say it. Poor boys look at me for help. All I do is shrug and apologize.

(snort/shrug)

It's worked so far.


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Good Lord Sugarcane what a memory!!! I couldn't remember that. Aussie2. 2 what is the question ???

OH WELL no matter I'll remember this one until the next time laugh

No worries Sugarcane I do think those yanks need a bit of input from the other side of the pond. cool

Scotty nice to meet ya!! hurray
I knew it!! theres no real reason at all for the loo thing is there. And why does it happen ALL over the world? There are some things there are just no answers to.

Well I think that as long as my girls, my daughter, nieces and misc part time daughters, don't wear them then short dresses are ok grin

Oh and the nieces bloke she got engaged to, knew it was ok soon as I found out he was a footy player for a local team. And he drinks beer and whiskey.

I gave all my knowledge of women too over the evening. Neak are you laughing at me again?

When she says: "I've been thinking... "
Watch your front and rear and flanks and be prepared to withdraw rapidly;

When she says: "What are you thinking about ?"
For Gods sake make something up, the footy match or whatever I know you are probably thinking nothing but she will never believe you;

When she says: "Do you think she�s pretty?"
Mate you are busted. Make sure you say something like Mmmm well not really did you see the size of her [censored].

When she says: "Do you notice anything different about me?"
Yeah thats right get desperate because its soemthing you haven't noticed and the longer you delay the longer you are in the [censored] mate. Just admit you're stupid.

When she says: "Do you know what�s the date today?"
Holy hell, you have managed to forget a date that she considers to be important. Whether it was her birthday, or her anniversary or the date of your first date or the day you two first met, these are dates that remains permanently etched in your girl�s memory. Get an Iphone stupid with date alarms.

When she says: "We need to talk?"
Crap are you in deep [censored] mate. Its means you are wrong. Take notes she is giving you key info here. Of course if you have just said something really really dumb like �Shhh the game�s on� then you are dead meat.

See how could I be more helpful then that I ask you?




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Neak and Kimbers both are great ideas if you ask me. rotflmao




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Hey Aussie,

Heard you gave me a shout-out.

I couldn't be better. I haven't been angry in I don't know how long. :-)

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@Neak,

If I HAD daughters, I would tell them they could date my pall bearers. When they asked who THEY are I'd tell them they have to wait until I'm dead to find out.....

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Aussie I went back up and read the original post on this thread. One line stuck out - that the affair was worse than your sons death.

I felt the same way. Now don't interpret that as "NCW would rather have a son die than a wife cheat." That's not the case at all.

But DEALING with a death of a loved one vs. an affair? I think that's easier. With a death of a loved one, well, it's final. They're gone. There is a line of demarcation that one crosses that is out of one's control. At that point, one has to "just deal." And the memories and pictures of the loved one? Well they tend to be fond. They engender good feelings as one reminisces about the joys they added to your life. Especially if it was a "good" death - with honor, like a soldier.

But the WS? (And I am speaking about an unreconciled marriage). Well, they're NOT dead. And if kids are involved, you have to see them again and again and again. And even years later (It's been 6 for me) they still sometimes speak in fog. No finality to it. A wound that keeps getting prodded. Mine's negative choices are STILL impacting me in different ways.

Plus, without reconciliation, they intentionally inflict wounds on you that don't get healed. Death of a loved one carries no malice towards you.

It's like having to fight down bad feelings never ends. They do lessen, though. I am dreading things like the kids weddings, etc.

NCW

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