This has been so horrible. Husband got caught cheating, and, I couldn't afford to stay in the house with out him since he had just let me retire the same week thinking we'd be married with two incomes forever, so I moved enough stuff out to a small apt until we could come up with an agreement. I left most of my belongings and didn't change address. Just a temporary place to camp out from the cruelness and hostilitiy. He then changed the locks to the house, went to visit his new girl in another state and now has brought her back and dating her in public. And, I'm sure that is why he packed up all my stuff in the house and threw it in the garage. We don't have a seperation agreement yet and I'm told I can have a locksmith let me into my home. It has been less than two months and he won't cooperate on the seperation agreement because he wants to give me nothing, so he is forcing me to pay to have it all done. I am so hurt and heartbroken along with humiliated. I can't eat and am starving despite going to counseling and under a doctors care for all of this. Can anyone give me some insight or encouragment? I'm hoping when I can get it into court the judge will see how cruel I've been treated and make him give me what he should so I can begin my life again after 27 years. This man has left me high and dry.
I don't know anything about the law in your state, but why haven't you done what you yourself suggested?
Get a locksmith to let you back into your own home. It was a terrible idea for you to have moved out in the first place. You are not new to this site and I am surprised that you did not know that you should stay. As you can see, separating just allowed him to continue his affair without impediment.
If he wants to continue as if single, you move back in and wait for HIM to move out. If he continues his affair under your roof, seek legal advice to get him out, and start divorce proceedings.
He has a legal responsibility to maintain payments on the house until it is sold, if it has to be.
This thread should be of the Surviving an Affair forum. You are not divorcing yet. Ask a moderator to move it there.
