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Kind of hard to tell now. Doesn't matter, whatever is posted on his thread will be read by her now.

A good thing her thread was locked--I was just about to post a "not-so-nice" comment to her. Gotta remember your admonition to not be so darned mean to those poor little waywards!!

Holy smokes, her thread really should go down as one of the foggiest narratives ever written.


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Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Holy smokes, her thread really should go down as one of the foggiest narratives ever written.

This linked thread is my favorite wayward fog babble narrative. (my comments are in red)

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
This linked thread is my favorite wayward fog babble narrative. (my comments are in red)

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Wow. That was both funny and painful at the same time.

Seriously, y'all, how do you avoid just not flat-out cussing out some of these wayward posters? Maybe it's just too recent for me to be open-minded to them? Dunno.


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Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Seriously, y'all, how do you avoid just not flat-out cussing out some of these wayward posters? Maybe it's just too recent for me to be open-minded to them? Dunno.

Time. Experience.

Sometimes I cuss anyway.

But, most of the time I remind myself that the dumbasswayturd is someone's beloved .... or was at one time.

We have all been in the position of acting stoopid.
We have all been in the position of needing forgiveness.

Having said that, I think active waywards are needing a good old fashioned [censored]-kickin' .... many a time.

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
We have all been in the position of acting stoopid.
We have all been in the position of needing forgiveness.

That's true!


Originally Posted by Pepperband
Having said that, I think active waywards are needing a good old fashioned [censored]-kickin' .... many a time.

I'll admit some of my favorite posts are when the OM gets his [censored] kicked by the betrayed husband.

But since you cannot educate them, then I suppose cussing them out on an internet forum would do no good, either.



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No reading required!

!!! = post from WS
!!!!!! = post from foggy WS
!!!!!!!!! = post from foggy and busted WS
!!!!!!!!!!!!! + CAPS = post from foggy, busted WS still in active A

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LOL Surfer !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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B...B...B...BUT THE EXPOSURE WAS PUBLIC HUMILIATION AND THE WHOLE TOWN AND MY 516 FACEBOOK FRIENDS ALL KNOW WHAT A SKANK I AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That was 13 exclamation points, per your primer, Surfer.


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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Holy smokes, her thread really should go down as one of the foggiest narratives ever written.

This linked thread is my favorite wayward fog babble narrative. (my comments are in red)

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This phone call is my favorite:

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2520709#Post2520709


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Rant on:

Yes, but....

wiggle room in MB

my situation is different

why doesn't MB work? or just MB does not work and is not worth my time

Good grief. Rant off.


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Here ya, AM. Know the thread. Grrr.

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And another rant:

"After all the incalculable damage I've done to everyone around me with my selfish decisions, after I've laid waste to years and years of what could have been happiness and contentment for myself, my husband, my children, our friends and family...I'M BACK!!! YAY!! It's ALL GOOD! IT'S LIKE MY BAD ACTIONS NEVER HAPPENED!! YAY FOR ME!!!"

"So, we're going to just pick up on where we left off. No one wants to look at the messy reasons behind my selfish choices, right? I mean, why bother?? I'm back in the marriage, aren't I?? I don't need to look at my nasty behaviors and do anything differently - everyone is just sooooo glad to get back to NORMAL."

So unfortunate. In so many ways.


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Originally Posted by Surfer88
Here ya, AM. Know the thread. Grrr.

A shame, really, when meaningless stuff is pondered and the elephant in the room is ignored.

But I'd hate to judge...


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Originally Posted by maritalbliss
And another rant:

"After all the incalculable damage I've done to everyone around me with my selfish decisions, after I've laid waste to years and years of what could have been happiness and contentment for myself, my husband, my children, our friends and family...I'M BACK!!! YAY!! It's ALL GOOD! IT'S LIKE MY BAD ACTIONS NEVER HAPPENED!! YAY FOR ME!!!"

"So, we're going to just pick up on where we left off. No one wants to look at the messy reasons behind my selfish choices, right? I mean, why bother?? I'm back in the marriage, aren't I?? I don't need to look at my nasty behaviors and do anything differently - everyone is just sooooo glad to get back to NORMAL."

So unfortunate. In so many ways.

Yup, the sure signs of denial, my late WW was guilty of this, and like Mels sigline,"Misplaced compassion gives power to Evil"

But everybody wants to be the nice guy right? If you are a man you better be, because telling the truth well, you aren't perfect are you?

Well I guess I won right? She died in her sins, and it all caught up with her. Guess what? I never wanted to win this contest. Sure I am slowly putting it all behind me, but seriuosly, am I supposed to forget the person who fought so hard to get out of the alcoholic box she was born into?

Yeah the pride and pain and will to hold onto the past. It really is a death knoll. After all, it isn't fair now is it?


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IT'S LIKE MY BAD ACTIONS NEVER HAPPENED!! YAY FOR ME!!!
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Lol, it wasn't my fault! They made me do it! I am gonna hold my breath till I turn blue and then you'll be sorry!

Its just not fair!!!!!

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Hyperbole ( /haɪˈpɜrbəliː/ hy-pur-bə-lee;[1] Greek: ὑπερβολή, 'exaggeration') is the use of exaggeration as a rhetorical device or figure of speech. It may be used to evoke strong feelings or to create a strong impression, but is not meant to be taken literally.

Hyperboles are exaggerations to create emphasis or effect. As a literary device, hyperbole is often used in poetry, and is frequently encountered in casual speech. An example of hyperbole is: "The bag weighed a ton."[2] Hyperbole helps to make the point that the bag was very heavy, although it is not probable that it would actually weigh a ton.

Hyperbole

MB Example of Hyperbole: I stayed stuck in my bad marriage (even though I cheated) because posters told me the MB plans are infallible so the problem must be me.

The truth: I have NEVER read ANYWHERE on MB where an MB poster has been told that the MB plans are "infallible".

MB is not marriage-at-all cost, dating-while-married, or divorce-so-I-can-play. The plans work for those who use the plans properly. MB success can mean building a solid marriage, recovering from an affair, or after all efforts are said and done, a divorce with personal recovery and a life of integrity.

One of the MAIN tenets of MB is HONESTY -- and that doesn't include hyperbole.

Cheers!

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Mini rant

Drives me a little crazy to see posters with
reluctance to use Snooping 101 tools such as:

GPS
VAR
Keylogger
Spyware on phone

Especially if an affair is suspected, there has been recent contact, or the WS is still foggy/not fully withdrawn.

This demonstrates a complete lack of understanding of how sneaky a wayward can be, and I have seen this backfire on so many posters over the years, it is not even funny. *sigh*


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