DG, I am very concerned that your WW and SIL are not taking your calls. I would call them and let them know that you are planning to contact the police department in that city to ask them to do a welfare check on the two of them. That might get them to return your call so you can find out what's going on.

I would personally call your main exposure targets today and speak with each of them. Ask them to use their influence with WW to help end the affair. While you sit idle, your WW is spinning your marital history to make you the bad guy.

All of her family members and close friends that I speak with know about what is going on and have tried to get her to end the A. I will contact them again and re-expose and she only has a few friends on FB that I don't know or speak to so exposure to them will not take long. What is the best way to expose and also explain her spinning our marriage and speak about the abuse?

I re-exposed to her family and the close friends. I did stir the pot a little today by calling the PD where she filed the assault charges and told them where they could find him, now just waiting on the phone call from a very torked off WW that I was trying to get POSOM a new set of silver bracelets.

Ok...so I'm going to Nuke this once and for all, I want to start exposing to OM's family and friends, and almost all of those people are on FB, tomorrow night after I get home from work and into Tuesday morning. Can someone give me some pointers or a sample to use for exposure? I could really use all the help I can get right now.

Well, she got back from Vegas and ran right back to him, she was waffling between wanting to still be friends and saying she's done with him. I finally was able to access my account for the phone and wonder if I should go ahead and block his # and his mom's #. Also, she changed her Fb password and blocked me and unblocked/added POSOM. I changed her password on her email and Fb again and unblocked my profile. I sent her a message yesterday that told her that My son and I would be alright without her and that I am probably going to shut her phone off not to expect any help from me when the bank comes and repos her car which the loan is in my name and since my credit is already jacked, I really don't care at this point I am no longer funding her A. I am going to call my lawyer today and have them go ahead and file the exparte custody order of my son until I can get the rest of my D papers filled out.

I still haven't exposed to a few of her friends that I don't know. Should I stay plan A or go plan B? I do love her and want nothing more than to work out our M, but I need to protect myself and my DS.

She did file charges against POSOM and her dumb a$$ took him up to see his lawyer and the lawyer told him that he would get 1-3 years if WW didn't show to court and 3-5+ if WW did show to testify.

Make sure you did the widest exposure possible.

Great that you cut off the money.

Sounds like you'll be in [url=http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html][/url] plan B now. Get a letter together for that. You will need to tell her that despite the fact you love her, you cannot have contact with her until she commits to no contact for life and implements EPs.

Another thing to consider is filing bankruptcy. A chapter 7 will clear your credit and relieve some of your debt. It will also leave her financially responsible for any credit cards or bills her name is on. It's another good way for her to feel the brunt of her decisions.

CV

Thank you for that, now should I block his phone # from her phone I mean it is in my name and all and her grandmother is paying for her part of the bill I already blocked it so she can't send picture messages or use the data on the phone

If the phone is in your name you should block the number. If she doesn't like it her grandmother can buy another phone for her and pay for the whole thing.

I would cancel her phone altogether. If she wants to be with OM, let him get her one.

I'll block it tonight when I get home from work. Her grandmother will not buy her another phone as she is fuming pi$$ed at her right now. Ww told her and my SD that she would be coming to stay there and she has yet to show up or call. So I guess that would mean POSOM would have to pay for a phone for her and if she wants to keep her car then he can give the $ for it to her grandmother so it can be made. She told me yesterday that she doesn't need a man or anyone else to support her...I just laughed

Even better.

ITA, get rid of that phone, and let the grandmother know that your WW was using that phone to contact OM.

Is the car in your name? Who's making the car payments?

Loan is in mine registration is in hers, but the bank said that when its paid off (May '12) I could have the title put in my name only.

Well she just asked me if I turned her internet off on her phone, I haven't responded because I'm afraid I'll say something bad to her. How should I approach this? If she gets mad about this, wait til she realizes I changed her password for her email and Fb!

She's probably figuring that out right now.

"I will not finance your affair in any way, and that includes a cell phone for talking to OM. You'll need to make cell phone arrangements for yourself from now on."

I mean, did she really expect you to do otherwise? Does she think you're a doormat, or something? Crazy waywards...

I just sent her that message and blocked it to where her calls are forwarded to my voicemail

It's actually better for your credit to contact the holder for the title of the car (bank or whoever) and tell them you are returning the vehicle rather than defaulting on the loan.