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Exposing is making a final stand and declaration of my commitment to trying to save my family.
Successful or not. The iron is hot, DD. STRIKE.
D-Day 2-10-2009
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So DD, did you expose?
BTW, I waited years to expose, lead to multiple d-days, worked out poorly. Don't plan DD, plan MB!
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Me-49, WH-51
Married 02/1983 yrs, Sons - 27, 26, 20
1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
1st D-day - 09/03, D-day 2 - 10/04 D-day 3 05/08
NC e-mail - 11/04- it wasn't real
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time to change the dynamics in this relationship. You will notice a paradigm shift when you regain some power over your life.
Me:52
W: 52
Married: 32 yrs
2 Sons (29 & 23)
1 Dtr (20)
1 GDtr (2.5) precious little girl
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Execution plan / prep. : Update FB acct. to include family photo. Acquire VAR. Expose to OM family via Facebook. Expose to WS family via txt (really hard to write this one, trying to convey request for support saving marriage w/o defending / justifying .) Two reasons for the VAR:
A) She might let something slip, and you'll want to access exactly what was said, and do some cross-checking later. Whipping out a pen and notebook to jot down the phrasing, etc, is awkward.
B) VERY FRICKIN' VITALLY IMPORTANT!!!!! WW is going to get angy as HELL when the inevitable exposure hits. She may consider a trumped-up domestic violence / threat / harrassment charge against you soon. The VAR, which you will take care to ALWAYS have turned "on" in her presence, will save you a great deal of trouble when the mindless law enforcement goons take her word (possibly supplemented by suborned perjury on the part of your child) and cart you off to jail, or otherwise run you out of your own home, because it's easier to do that than to actually, impartially, do their jobs!
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Anyone want to wager five dollars on her first quote?
I'll go first. I think she'll say "I was going to work on the marriage until you did this" or some variation of that.
FBH 34 me,FWW 34,
DS 14, OC-D 12 (given up for adoption), DS-8, DD-5
D-Day#1 10-12-1998
D-Day#2 2-10-2008
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"I can't believe you did that! How can I ever TRUST you now???" 
D-Day 2-10-2009
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I should have picked that one MB...
FBH 34 me,FWW 34,
DS 14, OC-D 12 (given up for adoption), DS-8, DD-5
D-Day#1 10-12-1998
D-Day#2 2-10-2008
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I should have picked that one MB... Too late - I got it first. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
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`Nobody cares anyways. You just look crazy and stupid. Now everyone agrees that I should leave you.`
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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"I was going to end the affair MY WAY - and now you've ruined everything. I was ready to work on the marriage until you did that..."
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`Nobody cares anyways. You just look crazy and stupid. Now everyone agrees that I should leave you.` My WH's exact words - EXACTLY!!! "Nobody cares anymore, Tough, I hope you have the closure you need to move on and find someone that makes you happy."
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"Are you crazy! I will never be with you now" lol.
Me: 34yrs
OM #1 ONS July 2010
OM #2 internet/text EA (9/10-2/11)
He: WH 38 yrs
OW#1 Former friend, 7 month EA & PA 1/11-7/11
OW#2 Ex-GF, 1 month phone/ FB EA & ONS 7/11
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