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I think was the angriest at one time, anyway. I haven't looked, but my early posts are probably still here. I was seething with rage...I don't know how I wasn't banned from this site. I acutally WAS banned from that purple site for the same behavior I exhibited here. Many thanks to the powers that be for tolerating me. I don't know where I would've blown off that amount of steam had I been booted.
What surprised me about my anger wasn't how intense it was...it was how long it lasted. Nearly 3 years, and it felt like it was physically killing me. When I finally moved out on my own, the darkness started to lift immediately. 2.5 years later I am a new person.
I'm not a professional and I don't even play one on TV, but if you are struggling with infidelity-induced anger, maybe I can help. Ask me anything. My old marriage wasn't saved, but I now have a chance at a healthy marriage in the future, thanks in no small part to the things I've learned here.
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Hi Krazy! I would definitely put you in the top 3, though an exact ranking would be hard to decide.
It's SO GOOD to hear that you are feeling an improvement.
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Thank you both!
I'm happy to say I'm a different person altogether.
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So what were some of the things you did on your personal recovery road?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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K71,
Actually "mike_c2", or some name similar, ended up beating OM some time after the end of the affair, which would make him a contender for your crown.
I guess there might be two sub-categories, angriest at Spouse or angriest at other person.
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So what were some of the things you did on your personal recovery road? It's a cliche', but the passage of time helped the most. It allowed me to gain perspective on my life, see things for what they were, and to identify the mistakes I made as a husband. It was also important to maintain distance from my ex. Communication with her was (and still is) as brief and businesslike as possible. I am civil, but I don't discuss topics like my personal life. I made new friends and reunited with old ones. I found renewed pride in being a father. I found hope, for lack of a better term. I was a zombie before, but I "woke up".
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If memory serves, I owe you a personal apology. No more political talk here from me.
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I don't think you were the angriest Krazy. I think that award goes to But, of course, his WW tried to kill him dead. Literally. He was just a wee bit angry.  Wanna hear something funny? I'm FB friends with that boy. He's really got a good heart.
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If memory serves, I owe you a personal apology. No more political talk here from me. We all deserve forgiveness and/or an apology from time to time. I'm glad you posted. 
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It was also important to maintain distance from my ex. Communication with her was (and still is) as brief and businesslike as possible. I am civil, but I don't discuss topics like my personal life. hey Krazy!! You make a really good point here. I found that I was still furious years later about my XH. [the one I beat up, who left me for the OW] I discovered I wasn't angry anymore when I just stopped talking to him altogether! No trigger, no anger. Glad to see you around. 
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Okay I'm pretty new here, but Melody Lane, am I correct in reading that you have an ex-H who you beat up ??? Would you be offended if I giggled at that thought ???? Gulp.
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Shoot, the beat down was nothing compared to her eating his truck in front of him while he lay there battered and bleeding.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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Always a pleasure to meet another poster with some "spirit"!
I also was deemed a "purple people eater" on that other site and was...excused...from further participation. (Of course I also did two weeks in the sin-bin here - a year ago today, as a matter of fact!)
Welcome back K71.
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You mean "banned camp", doncha?
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Mel, if you don't stop admitting and owning all these imperfections and mistakes, its going to be real hard to be angry with you the next time we disagree about something... Dang you...
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
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Shoot, the beat down was nothing compared to her eating his truck in front of him while he lay there battered and bleeding. I did not "eat the truck," you silly!  I accidentally bashed my car into the back of it. over and over and over again ... I had a run in my stockings and broke a high heel! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Really, the way I heard it Mel, your dumbassexhusband backed INTO your car over and over.
Mel, trust me, it's not your fault.
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Really, the way I heard it Mel, your dumbassexhusband backed INTO your car over and over.
Mel, trust me, it's not your fault. tis true.... 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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