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Well I'll never forget the first time that I heard That pretty mouth say that dirty word And I can't even remember now what she backed my truck into But she covered her mouth and her face got red And she just looked so darn cute That I couldn't even act like I was mad Yeah I live for little moments like that
Well that's just like this last year on my birthday She lost all track of time and burnt the cake And every smoke detector in the house was goin' off And she was just about to cry until I took her in my arms And I tried not to let her see me laugh Yeah I live for little moments like that
I know she's not perfect but she tries so hard for me And I thank god that she isn't 'cause how boring would that be It's the little imperfections it's the sudden change in plans When she misreads the directions and we're lost but holdin' hands Yeah I live for little moments like that
When she's layin' on my shoulder on the sofa in the dark And about the time she falls asleep so does my right arm And I want so bad to move it 'cause it's tinglin' and it's numb But she looks so much like an angel that I don't wanna wake her up Yeah I live for little moments When she steals my heart again and doesn't even know it Yeah I live for little moments like that
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
My H is making continuous efforts to show his love and care. I know he plans his actions well ahead.
I had my most romantic birthday last summer when I actually felt I didn't deserve it, that he was spoiling me
I have my new favourite wine from THAT night - when we have something special ahead I always look up THAT wine from THAT night, and we have new candlesticks from THAT night and so on.
I'm also very glad that our teens are now very used to the new rules in the house - that mom and dad have their date nights, sometimes more often and more spontaneous than usual, and that they respect that.
I'm happy to realise that marriage can actually be fun and romantic whatever the rest of the world thinks. Poor creatures... And I'm very pleased that we do not let each other to grow lazy again, that we are both high-maintainance in the best sense of the word.
Although I have declared that I do not want surprises, that he has to discuss them with me beforehand, I actually love his surprises, he is very talented in that, these moments are very lovely. Go figure, but I think he has actually bothered to get me know better than myself.
Me, FWW: 43 Mr_Recon6mo, FWH: 44 DD20 and DS23 3 cats Married 23 years, together 24 Divorcing
Mine sends me naughty texts all day and calls me several times.
He is cute and great in bed
He smells GREAT!
He fixes everything in our house, and if he can't fix it he calls a repairman without me ever having to ask
He pays all the bills and manages our money
He changes my oil, buys my tires and gets my car work done
He is very TALL!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
I'm the planner and organizer of the two of us, but this past summer DH planned a beach trip not long after my friend passed away. It was wonderful and very sweet and romantic of him.
In our day to day life he's an amazing man who treats me like a queen. He manages all of our money now and we're saving. I'm getting laid off soon and he's secured a temp position with his company on the road. We're seeking a second opinion on having children and he's made it clear we need to do that together, he wants to be there. Our marriage is amazing, I never knew that it could be like this.
Me: 30 Him: 39 Together 5 years Married the very best man in the world 04/06/2013 after being common law for too long. I'm a lucky woman. 7 Cats - Viscount Ashley of Leftfield, Pawkie Petunia, The Timinator, Leo the Lionheart, Fruit Snack, Cloud, and Barret And our very lucky pony, Starbucks
My dh thinks the world of me. He tells me how awesome I am every day. He is so gorgeous that I am a blubbering idiot each time I watch him while he sleeps. He is an incredible man and I thank God DAILY that I have him.
When my husband travels for work he makes a point of stopping at fabric shops and buying quilt fabric for me. His taste is totally different from mine, so sometimes he brings me some really interesting pieces that challenge me, and I like that. And sometimes he buys things he knows I like to collect.....most recently he got me 3 yards of cherry fabric to make a rockabilly sundress!
3rd marriage to an awesome wonderful man since 2008.
Saw this thread the other day and made a mental note to return and post to it.
Recently, my wife and I conducted the "10 Things I Appreciate About You" exercise. This is what I wrote her:
Ten Things I Appreciate About You (in no particular order):
1. You are a beautiful woman. I have always judged beauty from an inner perspective, and you have beauty to spare in this regard. You are proud, you care about yourself, and this shows in your outer appearance. There are only certain areas in physical appearance that you can control (healthy appearance, cleanliness, dress, etc.). In these areas you do an outstanding job of culturing your physical appearance and I am always giddy and proud to be seen with you, especially when you dress up. You are my favorite accessory. You always make me look much better no matter what I�m wearing!
2. You are intelligent. You handle difficult tasks and difficult people in a very effective manner. You show a strong sense of reason and logic in your approach to things and usually make very effective, well-thought-through decisions.
3. You are a very caring person. You show a lot of empathy to others and your scope of caring is wide and deep. It seems there�s no one too separated from you to qualify for a dose of your caring.
4. You are an outstanding mother. You show our kids a lot of love and affection. It�s only been recently that I�ve been able to understand how critical your show of healthy affection is for our boys. Now that I have an understanding of how important this has been for their development, this is something for which I will be eternally grateful.
5. You are the perfect economic partner. Your attention to detail is the perfect complement to me and has directly resulted in us rising from literally having nothing, to being solidly placed in the upper middle class.
6. You are the lover of my dreams. When you give yourself to me totally, physically and emotionally, I am more happy and satisfied than I ever imagined I could be. It�s sad that I have nothing but mere words to express to you how you fulfill me.
7. You provide a perfect emotional balance to my life. It is primarily through you that I am able to relate to other people at all. You could never overestimate how important this is to me. Without you, I would likely be a hermit.
8. You have a very even-keeled temperament. Again, this is the perfect complement to my rather excitable nature. You act as a very comforting, stable influence in my life.
9. You are an extremely patient person when it comes to dealing with other people. You accept other people�s faults without judgment. This makes people feel very safe with you.
10. You came back to me emotionally. Though we grew apart, seemingly pursued separate agendas within the same household, and grew resentful, when our relationship hit critical mass, you quickly made the decision to fully come back to me. This proves to me that, no matter how bad you thought things were, you never gave up on the dream of us. That�s an awesome testament.