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OMG I feel sick he's answered with 'Nothing just wanted to here your beautiful voice. Sorry did'nt mean to bother you.' and she then responded with 'Thought it was your crazy wife' how am I supposed to deal with these insults, it is so hard not to text her with a piece of my mind. Typical wayward nonsense. They might as well be drawling in a drunken slur. How does a women speak critically about a WIFE when she is the mistress!! If the wife is crazy what exactly does that make her?! You would have to be drunk on an affair to be able to say and listen to this stuff. To you and I it is disgusting but they sound normal to each other.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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OMG I feel sick he's answered with 'Nothing just wanted to here your beautiful voice. Sorry did'nt mean to bother you.' and she then responded with 'Thought it was your crazy wife' how am I supposed to deal with these insults, it is so hard not to text her with a piece of my mind. Ok. Are you convinced that this A is not over? FB the OW BH and give him your number and ask him to call you. This will increase your credibility. Then prepare for the call. Most likely OW BH will be in shock and may not believe you at first. Remain calm and sympathetic. Tell him that you are fighting for your M and have heartbroken children at home since your WH has left. Ask him to help you keep his WW away from your H.
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Whichway, I forgot to give you a big hug for stepping out there. Bravo to you!!  Ditto. Your doing great.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
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Whichway, I forgot to give you a big hug for stepping out there. Bravo to you!! Ditto. Your doing great. Agreed! You did the right thing WWN
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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OK mother in law now informed
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WWN. You are doing great ! Which MIL did you inform - OW or WH.
Don't worry about pushing the two waywards together.
Reality will hit your WH hard when this OW throws him under the bus after exposure. They always do...they run crying.
Remember...cool, calm and in control. Do not engage in fights with your WH.
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Brother in law now informed too! I'm on a roll. Perhaps helped by the vodka 
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It was her mother in law I informed as his would be my mum who is already aware of what an idiot he is.
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It was her mother in law I informed as his would be my mum who is already aware of what an idiot he is. LOL! Liking you more and more! Hang in there, you're doing great!
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well done WWN,
If you stated exposure please consider that if you have access to the OW Facebook page you will need to go to her friends list ASAP and copy and paste her friends list onto a word document because she will likely block you from her facebook page soon so if it would be wise to get her friends list before this happens. You will need it for full exposure.
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WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
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If you were shocked reading any of this, that this is the consequence of not following MB to the LETTER.
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Thanks TigerWes, I'll probably regret this in the morning but it's too late now lol
Lets face it, can it get any worse than it already is?
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It was her mother in law I informed as his would be my mum who is already aware of what an idiot he is. Of course. I feel like an idiot now as you already stated that your family knew. Good job!! You rock.
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Contacts now copied, thanks for the heads up NB28
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Thanks TigerWes, I'll probably regret this in the morning but it's too late now lol
Lets face it, can it get any worse than it already is? Your only regret would be not doing it. This isn't just your best chance, it's your only chance.
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Lets face it, can it get any worse than it already is? You have nothing to lose except a loveless WH who likes to eat cake. ETA: This is your best shot at turning WH back into the man he was before. Let him face the consequences of his choices.
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I did and I have saved the letter wording, one step at a time at the moment though, I'll probably do this at the weekend, I would like to see what text and phone communication there is between now and then. My WH has only worked there since October and could well lose his job over this which means I know longer get maintenance. They did offer him a job local to our home on permanent nights not so long ago so I'm going to suggest that he speaks to his manager to ask if he can do this but I need him to contact me first before I can put this suggestion to him.
I'm not even sure he still wants me at the moment so I just have to bide my time. Are you planning on doing a trickle exposure? A trickle exposure is very ineffective, because it is effective enough to kill the affair, but only just enough to infuriate the WS enough to come after you. See, now that he knows you are doing a little exposure he can stop you.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Brother in law now informed too! I'm on a roll. Perhaps helped by the vodka 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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OK so now I've done this how long is it likely to take before I get to see fireworks? I'm not a patient woman lol
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OK so now I've done this how long is it likely to take before I get to see fireworks? I'm not a patient woman lol I love her!@!  CAn you find the OW's mother on facebook and send her a private message? Send her this: Dear Mother of skanky, It grieves me to write this letter but I believe you should be aware that your daughter, skankho, is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for XX years and have 3 little children. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence. I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks. I would ask that you use your influence with OW to persuade her to leave my husband alone. I would appreciate it if you would call me at xxx-www-xxxx. Mrs Whichwaynow
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I would see you not getting any fireworks at this point a good thing it probably means the OW is too busy dealing wi her mess to contact you WH right now and tell him what's going on.
Your monitoring the phone right now and as you have not seen any contact from the OW to your WH this could mean that she is truly busy mopping up her mess and is so deep in the dung that she has t had the chance to tell him about your exposure yet.
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WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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