Hello friends--has been awhile. This site gave me so much strength as I went through my divorce, I didn't recover my marriage but I made a better me through the process. I recommend this site all the time!!!!

AS I said on the other thread, a friend met Butch online almost 2 years ago, they dated for a month or 2, didn't work out. I hosted a BBQ @ my house, they were invited, my folks and brother were there, oh yeah Doug the guy that I was dating was there. We were talking and Butch said he had come up to SD with a friend from Colorado Springs and went pheasant hunting with a buddy of the friends, figured it out that it was my dad he had went hunting with 20 years ago. So we had friends in commom from way back. I ran into Butch a couple of times and we talked he explained about him and the girlfriend as she told her side of the story and he wanted me to hear his side.

Last April after I had seen him here at school after a presentation he did, he sent me a message on facebook about how he liked the person I was and the things that he admired about me, but that he knew that I was seeing someone else, and he didn't want to interfere. I acknowledged the message but didn't tell anyone about it, but thought about it from time to time.

I broke up for the final time with Doug @ the beginning of August. A whole story in itself.

My folks had went in September to see the mutual friends from way back, and they asked about Butch and had they kept in touch.I messaged Butch and we started an online dialog, wasn't sure if it was right for me to date him as he had dated my friend, we emailed back and forth for a week or two, I really liked him and figured it had been long enough since the friend dated him. We went to dinner, a hockey game, dessert and stopped to listen to a favorite band of mine and danced, it was way after 3 am before I got home. He was gone on business for a week and I to visit my daughter in Chicago for a week.

He lives an hour a way, but seen each other 3 or 4 times a week.Through everything I had went through with Doug, I knew that I wanted to be married again and just knew that Butch was the one, he asked what I wanted for Christmas and I showed him engagement rings at the mall, he was surprised that I was so sure,but I was, he said he figured it would be 6 months before he asked me, but knew that he would, so we were engaged in December and won't get married til August 4th. My family loves him, he is so good with the grandson's, they asked if they could just call him Butch or if they would have to call him Grandpa Butch when we got married.

So people there is hope out there for us, I was single for 10 years and did not date for 6 of them. I kept my standards high and didn't settle for less. Was told that I put off a persona "Don't waste my time, if your not good enough." Wasn't something that I realized that I was doing.

So stay strong!!!!

Dawn

Congratulations and thanks for the encouragement.

I am very happy for you Dawn, congratulations!


That is the way to do it!

AGG

Congratulations! Thanks for a nice story.

MS

So glad for you!