|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
If you want to lovebust, have an AO on your 'no need for a poly' MC. Call her up and give her a piece of your mind. For free.
Then ask her for a refund.
The time and money this fraud has wasted. Maybe she'll learn something if you free your mind.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
I told him that I want EVERY DETAIL ABOUT EVERYTHING!!!!!!!'
He cannot leave anything out and I'm not coming home until he finishes it!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
Please try and calm down. I know you are very upset [and have every right to be upset!] but your emotions are your enemy right now. Gather yourself, suck in your stomach and CALM DOWN, my friend.
you are closer tonight to a true recovery than you were this morning. As painful as it is to hear, you needed to hear it. So be calm - hold your mouth! you will have to bite your tongue!
can you do this?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
We told you he would throw you a lie as crumbs to get the poly cancelled....
If the A was over he would have used a downplayed lie about how it was physical but nothing much.
This new OW seems to be a red herring to protect boat OW. This would mean he is concerned about losing her.
Keep working that plan, you're doing prob the best Plan A ever.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
My sister wants to kill him right now!!! We are driving to a park now to talk... (me and my sister).
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
GEt all of the truth out in the open and THEN make a decision about what you want to do. Get the truth, verify everything he says, go through with the polygraph and THEN make a decision. Remember when we told you that a WS will often throw out some crumbs when they see you are serious? I think that is what is happening here. He is throwing you crumbs in the hopes that he will get out of the test. And I also think he is covering his bases on the true story of the OW by inventing OW #2. Perhaps not, but he is lying about alot of things. BE CALM.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156 |
Another thing I would do is get on the phone with your FIL and find out exactly what was said during that conversation, and if he even talked to him at all. You can bet WH didn't tell your FIL any semblance of real truth, and this would also serve to add some more pressure on your WH.
Not sure if I would divulge what he just told you about OW2. But then again...
Vets? Thoughts?
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
You need the full identity of this new OW and contact details to call her.
Also the info of whoever walked in on them...what's the story there?
He needs to see you insisting on verification of everything.
Ask for it calmly.
If no, or waffling, give him that great response about it deciding your marriages future that you gave with the poly and walk away.
Walk away if you feel like lovebusting too.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 1,709
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 1,709 |
Star. Whenever something like this happens...
Stick to the PLAN.
Is he going to take a poly or not? He just did a really good job at distracting you. Be prepared for anything.
Cool and calm.
ME: BW
HIM: FWH
Married 18 yrs
DDay 09/2008 and 12/2008
Recovered
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
He just texted me and told me that he has written everything out for me. I find it hard to believe!!!!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156 |
He just texted me and told me that he has written everything out for me. I find it hard to believe!!!! Has he written that he's willing to take the poly? If not, then tell him no deal.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
He just texted me and told me that he has written everything out for me. I find it hard to believe!!!! Go home and VERY CALMLY read what he has said. ALONE. Read it alone. Can you do that? Then come back here and tell us what he said.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2011
Posts: 1,156 |
He's in chaotic panic mode trying to get out of this poly. Don't back down on this or you WILL live to regret it.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2009
Posts: 2,708
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2009
Posts: 2,708 |
I agree, read it alone.
Come back here, no matter how you want to go to him and give him a talking to, etc.
Come back here and tell us what he wrote.
We will help you respond correctly AND definitely let him know a polygraph is still warranted...."thank you for taking steps to being honest with me hubby. I know that taking a polygraph is something you want to do for us so all is out in the open and crystal clear."
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
He deleted her phone number and off fb. How do I get in touch with her?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
I don't even want my husband sleeping in my bed right now. I just don't know what to do or how to act when I go home. What do I do now????
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
I don't even want my husband sleeping in my bed right now. I just don't know what to do or how to act when I go home. What do I do now???? Just be calm. You prob won't sleep anyway. Get him to answer you in full and then ask for some space to consider everything.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
Has he given you a name? How they met? Address? Workplace? Married?
I'm sure you can undelete FB friends. Just ask for password and her name.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
177
guests, and
49
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Children
by BrainHurts - 10/19/24 03:02 PM
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,615
Posts2,323,460
Members71,895
| |
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
