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Hi,
I am looking for recommendations on good past threads of BH putting Plan A in place. I've been reading through the site for about a month, gone through BCs and the Q&A but thought I would start reaching out in this forum as well.
I'm not ready to lay out my whole situation yet but I would certainly appreciate any threads to get real life examples of what and what not to do in Plan A.
Thanks
Me: BH(41)
Her: WW(44)
Married: 18 yrs
DS: 3 (11,10,7)
DDAY: 2/12/12 & 3/20/12
OM: Over Internet (meet on Facebook 12/11)
Status: Plan A, Ongoing Affair
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How can anyone advise you if we don't know your situation?
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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T2L,
That's a good start, and how I started, you may also want to read some of the WW threads. Those were the threads that best helped me to understand my W, it's almost certain one or some combination of the threads will dovetail very nicely with what your WW has said to you and her actions.
Writing everything out on this anonymous site is better than a $130 dollar an hour therapist btw. From my personal experience you are better off getting the 130 single dollar bill and lighting them on fire on a winter day to warm your hands.
God Bless
Gamma
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Thanks for the recommendations. The entire Carrot/Stick post really helped. It is powerful stuff but I'm pretty dense, so I'm just going to keep reading it until it's coming out of my pores.
Gamma: I'm new to this, how do I find the WW threads without a link? I don't see a WW section. Is there a search or something like that?
Thanks and sorry for the newbie questions.
Me: BH(41)
Her: WW(44)
Married: 18 yrs
DS: 3 (11,10,7)
DDAY: 2/12/12 & 3/20/12
OM: Over Internet (meet on Facebook 12/11)
Status: Plan A, Ongoing Affair
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T2L, Use the search function, type in WW see what comes up, use various strings. Or just look around as the postings are not organized by topic or sub-population. Also you can search a particular WWs postings sometimes they post relevant insights on other peoples threads. There is a view posts options if you click on a username. Here is one of the threads that really helped me, just off the top of my head. http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...in=149631&Number=2035577#Post2035577God Bless Gamma
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On today's show, Dr Harley encouraged a betrayed husband to plan A for a "minimum of 6 months and up to 2 years"
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On today's show, Dr Harley encouraged a betrayed husband to plan A for a "minimum of 6 months and up to 2 years" A "husband," right? Just want to make sure you understand he does not give the same advice to WOMEN.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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