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No, I'm upset about the place he chose. No... he didn't meet OW#2 at the same bar. nononoooo! Don't even go there. You have bigger fish to fry right now!
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Yes, I didn't say a thing about it tonight. I'm waiting until after the poly!!!
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WH called last night and told me that he wasn't going to rush me to come back home after the poly. He said that he would give me time to decide when I felt that I want him back in the house.
He also said that he has nothing left to hide, so the polygraph isn't a big deal to him anymore and if this is what I need, then he wants to do it for me.
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Well the proof of the pudding is in the eating. Is he still claiming nothing happened on the boat?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Star, I wouldn't be surprised if he still tried to get out of it before then. You'll see.
A small part of me thinks that he believes he can fool the poly. Don't make any promises about anything until you have received the results.
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Yes, he is claiming nothing happened on the boat.
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I'm a nervous wreck this morning and feel so sick to my stomach!
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That's normal unfortunately. Remember an important part of Plan A is self care. Take very good care of you: sleeping, eating, treats, hugs, friends.
Then remind yourself how well you're doing!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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 We're all puling for you Star.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Thank you so much!!! I'm just petrified of anymore bombshells! I'm not sure I can handle anymore!
I'm hoping that he passes, but I'm not sure.
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i really would tell him on the ride there you need him to pass this test and if there is anything to tell you.
i agree with scotty. he may think he can fool it.
and it you are ready after that there is no need for him to be hanging out at a friends after he passes.
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serial cheater big time
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i really would tell him on the ride there you need him to pass this test and if there is anything to tell you.
i agree with scotty. he may think he can fool it.
and it you are ready after that there is no need for him to be hanging out at a friends after he passes. I agree with this. It makes no sense that he didn't have sex on the boat with the OW. There would be nothing to stop him. I would take another run at this on the way over there. Tell him, "I want more than anything for you to pass this test so if there is anything more you are not telling me, now is the time to get it out. For example, if you had sex with the OW now is the time to tell me all if you want to save our marriage."
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Thank you so much!!! I'm just petrified of anymore bombshells! I'm not sure I can handle anymore!
I'm hoping that he passes, but I'm not sure. Be prepared for anything. You can handle it...you have already shown that. You can do this. (((hugs)))
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He just sent me the following email:
I hope today can be a turning point to a healing process in our marriage.� This week has been a tough one to say the least.� Having police come to our house is something I never would have thought would happen.� I have made mistakes that have hurt you, and hurt our relationship, but I know they are repairable if we both are willing to let them heal.� I believe in us and I still love you.� I miss you and I miss our family.� I'm really hoping today is the start to that healing process.� I'll see you later today.
Love
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Do not react to such messages at all. These messages are patronising to say the least, and empty. Notice that there are no apologies there, only blameshifting and him whining that you have made his life hard with the police and your unforgivefulness. Geez...
Focus on poly and do not let him distract you at.all.
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He is insisting that I give him everything that he wrote out to me about the affairs and all of his hand written answers to my questions. He wants them BEFORE we walk into the polygraph office. I have already made copies, so should I just give him the originals? He said he wants to destroy them. We won't receive poly results until tomorrow.
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He is insisting that I give him everything that he wrote out to me about the affairs and all of his hand written answers to my questions. He wants them BEFORE we walk into the polygraph office. I have already made copies, so should I just give him the originals? He said he wants to destroy them. We won't receive poly results until tomorrow. \ Hand it over!
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I will! I just called him and told him that I would. I don't want anything changing his mind about the poly!!!
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Do you all think he will pass?
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Star --
I don't think he's going to take it.
Just my opinion...
I think he wants to meet with you. Get his hands on the confession. Then back out.
Just be ready. And Plan A all the way...
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