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Ill let the vets weigh in here, but if your taker wants a job to do, why not pack his bags?
Makes a strong visual statement. Just sayin........
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Well you don't necessarily need to do anything right now but how do you feel? You sound kind of pumped to me!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I'm not sure this can be recovered! He is out with another single friend tonight at a bar!
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I'm not sure this can be recovered! He is out with another single friend tonight at a bar! How do you know this starfish?
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I'm not sure this can be recovered! He is out with another single friend tonight at a bar! You don't have to be sure, remember? Not your job. Its his job to prove willingly and enthusiastically that he is trustworthy. Until then, your only job is to maintain fixed standards and conditions for his return. Which you have done. Brilliantly. Is this getting a bit too much now? What about making some Plan B preparations? How do you feel about that?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I'm not sure this can be recovered! He is out with another single friend tonight at a bar! How do you know this starfish? She has a GPS on him
What would you do if you were not afraid?
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I'm not sure this can be recovered! He is out with another single friend tonight at a bar! How do you know this starfish? I meant how do you know he is with a single friend...I know you have gps but how do you know who he is with.
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I'm a wreck.... WTF! I'm sorry, but I'm so mad!!!! He is showing NO ACTIONS for recovery!!!
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I saw that he went to his friend's house and then went to the same restaurant/bar as he did last night.
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Just texted him 5 minutes ago and now response.
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I asked him if he was at his friend's house and no response!
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That probably mean he's either got his phone shut off or he know he's busted and is trying to figure out a lie.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I don't know. Right now all I can suggest is wait and see what he says when he gets back.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Star. Personally, I think you should go dark for tonight.
Give yourself time to process everything.
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I agree with pokerface. That sounds like a more sound plan than what I suggested.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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He's wayward = dishonest + independent behavior. So this is to be expected.
I would expect more of the same until he demonstrates that he is ready to make some meaningful changes starting with coming clean about his affairs.
So for now you continue with Plan A. Have you started reading up on Plan b yet?
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What about asking a friend to check out the bar or wait outside to see what's happening. Would you be able to do that calmly?
Or just see where he goes afterwards. Where did he go after the last trip to this bar?
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I have read a little about Plan B, but so pissed that I could almost be ready for Plan D! I am so pissed!!!
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