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I agree! Take us with you, please. Let us know the date and hour so we can be praying that your "Grand Opening" (lol!) goes as planned or better.
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Humour in the face of adversity, a sign of marvelous strength. Something I have come to love and respect in Mrs Pepperband. Luvs ya TONNES. Take care of yourself, I will it.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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 to you, Pep. You are one amazing woman. I'll be thinking about you!
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Rant on:
Threads that go round and round and end up exactly where they started. Defensive posters who know best and don't like to hear they are not following MB principles.
Rant off
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Rant on:
Threads that go round and round and end up exactly where they started. Defensive posters who know best and don't like to hear they are not following MB principles.
Rant off That reminds me of a joke... Pete and Re-Pete were sitting on a fence. Pete fell off. Who was left?Yeah, I have "one of those" senses of humor.
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Oh Northwood, my Dad used to tell that one. He always had the silliest jokes and the best time telling them. Thanks for reminding me. He died in 1990 and I still miss those silly jokes.
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BW - 70
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Okay, maybe this isn't a rant. Maybe it's a 'weep'? I'm sad for posters who have come here and didn't stick with Dr. H's plan. I'm sad that posters have come here and then were swayed away by other internet websites that were "all hat and no cattle," promising much but delivering little (and there are plenty of those  ) I'm sad that posters leave here and commiserate with other posters on other websites, ending all activity involved in saving their marriage, while they are distracted by gazing at their own navel, wallowing over immaterial childhood issues to the encouragement of their new online 'BFF's'. I am sick to death of stumbling over other websites that try to disparage Dr. H's advice. When followed correctly, it works. YOU DIDN'T FOLLOW IT CORRECTLY. And it's embarrassingly simple, which makes it perfect for two spouses who want a great marriage. But I am heartened by the multitude of positive comments that I find online about Dr. H's concepts. I am heartened by having spoken to him personally and finding him to be a wonderful person. So anyway, like I said, this isn't a rant. It's a statement of personal fact. Thanks for letting me share. 
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They have been a bit few and far between, but I've read a few other marriage specialists/psycholigsts mention Dr. Harley's work - one giving a shining nod to PoJA (recommending it, in fact).
Though, I stick to blogs or articles, and stay away from other forums.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
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They have been a bit few and far between, but I've read a few other marriage specialists/psycholigsts mention Dr. Harley's work - one giving a shining nod to PoJA (recommending it, in fact).
Though, I stick to blogs or articles, and stay away from other forums. I always knew you were a wise person. Now, don't get all crazy, thinking you're all that, LOL.
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WW coming to this board and always making the excuse ... he will beat me if I tell!
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Humour in the face of adversity, a sign of marvelous strength. Something I have come to love and respect in Mrs Pepperband. Luvs ya TONNES. Take care of yourself, I will it. I've got to wonder if it is a professional adaptation? Professionally a toddler myself, but a family full... and the humor always rolls... and at times seems... twisted? Recieved a man for end-of-life last night... someone facing death, and he still had the resolve not only to smile, but to joke. I am constantly humbled by the strength of the human spirit through endless adersities, tragedies, suffering, and torment. Even as a BS... I've had a cakewalk.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
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The moment I knew I was becoming myself again was when I started to be able to joke about things again. If I don't have humour, I have nothing. It's the positive outlook thing, and all that.
I joke so often, sometimes people don't know when I am being serious. I like it that way. It makes life more interesting.
Now, what happened to all the ranting around this place?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Then there is this sort of thread start ........ Asking for help on the 101 forum, without context.
"I'm stuck. It's not working. What should I do?"
Say, what?
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"I'm stuck. It's not working. What should I do?" Starsky: Do it.
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Then there is this sort of thread start ........ Asking for help on the 101 forum, without context.
"I'm stuck. It's not working. What should I do?"
Say, what? Try an industrial strength lubricant?
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
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Then there is this sort of thread start ........ Asking for help on the 101 forum, without context.
"I'm stuck. It's not working. What should I do?"
Say, what? Try an industrial strength lubricant? Try backing out slowly?
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Then there is this sort of thread start ........ Asking for help on the 101 forum, without context.
"I'm stuck. It's not working. What should I do?"
Say, what? Try an industrial strength lubricant? Try backing out slowly? It's easier to sit around and complain than to do the work.
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It's easier to sit around and complain than to do the work. Testify! "I lectured her about how horrible she is, why won't she change?" "I berate him constantly about his behavior, why won't he change?" Well... maybe you should try a different approach...
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It's easier to sit around and complain than to do the work. Testify! "I lectured her about how horrible she is, why won't she change?" "I berate him constantly about his behavior, why won't he change?" Well... maybe you should try a different approach... It's even more frustrating when you're trying to help posters with MB principles and either 1)they really don't want to make their marriage better they just want to complain about their horrible spouse because after all they've been around in a horrible marriage for years and what does Dr. Harley know? Then they have the audacity to post to other posters "their way" 2)they have every excuse in the book why MB won't work. So why did you come here?
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I may never be able to order Genoa without giggling now....thanks Mel
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