I told my cousin when I confronted her (through texting when I found out) that I didn't want her in my life. She was upset about that. I always wondered why my husband acted so weird around her. I always thought he was kinda rude to her because he seemed to avoid her and ignore her. She wants to sit down and talk, but i don't know if i will ever want to. I just dread the first time I have to see her at a family event. I just know that it will be a flood of emotions for me.

I have a great friend who is very supportive. The last time I went through this, I learned who my true friends were. I trusted the wrong people. And too many people knew about it. Everyone had an opinion on what I should do. I learned from that.

Thank you so much for the support! It means a lot to have someone to talk to who has been through the same.

I ordered Survivng an Affair.

Also, we made our EP lists. Dh says that I sometimes come off aa flirty, so I definitely need to work on that.

You need to expose OW/cousin to all the family and tell them why you and WH must have total NC with her for the rest of your lives.