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Working 3rd shift right now and I think it has hit me like a ton of bricks. I think I can say that I am depressed. I really don't feel like being here right now. The next two days are going to be tough.
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Can you get into your doctor and get some AD's? I know how difficult it is working 3rd shifts because my H and I do it ever 4 months. That alone can make you feel depressed and then add on what you're going through.
That's why Dr. H worries about peoples health when someone is going through what you are. That is why he recommends AD's if it's too much for someone.
You will feel so much better when you move back on Monday and expose on Monday. That may help with the depression, some what.
Do you have a support system IRL?
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Thanks Brainhurts, I have my parents and then a couple of people at work. I have a situation now. I sent her mom and email last just saying that I loved my wife and I wasn't going to give up. I told her mom that if she would just give the marriage a chance that I think it would work out. Also I told her that I wanted to make my wife happy and in the process keep my kids happy. I told her mom that the kids may look happy right now but the truth hasn't set in yet. I sent that email last night now my ww is back from her trip and I guess her mom is acting different or said something to her because now my ww wants to know what I said to her parents. How should I handle this?
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Melodylane if your on here I need help with the situation I just posted.
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Thanks Brainhurts, I have my parents and then a couple of people at work. I have a situation now. I sent her mom and email last just saying that I loved my wife and I wasn't going to give up. I told her mom that if she would just give the marriage a chance that I think it would work out. Also I told her that I wanted to make my wife happy and in the process keep my kids happy. I told her mom that the kids may look happy right now but the truth hasn't set in yet. I sent that email last night now my ww is back from her trip and I guess her mom is acting different or said something to her because now my ww wants to know what I said to her parents. How should I handle this? Just tell her what you said. It is not a big deal at all.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks Brainhurts, I have my parents and then a couple of people at work. I have a situation now. I sent her mom and email last just saying that I loved my wife and I wasn't going to give up. I told her mom that if she would just give the marriage a chance that I think it would work out. Also I told her that I wanted to make my wife happy and in the process keep my kids happy. I told her mom that the kids may look happy right now but the truth hasn't set in yet. I sent that email last night now my ww is back from her trip and I guess her mom is acting different or said something to her because now my ww wants to know what I said to her parents. How should I handle this? Just tell her what you wrote and add on " I am fighting for my M and I will do whatever it takes. Just tell her what you wrote to her
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All right I just sent the email to ww explaining what I told her mom. Let's see what kind of response I get. I not going to argue with her since that is one of the LB. I just going to leave it at the fact that I sent the email no matter what she sends back.
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Yes stay, calm and keep repeating.
"I will keep fighting for my marriage and I will do whatever it takes". You want a cookie?
Latther, rinse, repeat
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This is what I sent my ww.
"I told your mom that I loved you very much and have loved you for the past 14 years. I told her that I wanted to be the man that made you happy and that I wasn't going to give up on our marriage. I am fighting for our marriage and I will do whatever it takes."
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This is what I sent my ww.
"I told your mom that I loved you very much and have loved you for the past 14 years. I told her that I wanted to be the man that made you happy and that I wasn't going to give up on our marriage. I am fighting for our marriage and I will do whatever it takes." Bravo!!! Good job.
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This is her response to what I sent her mom.
"Everything you are doing is pushing me farther away. Over those 14 years, I have grown. You haven't. I've out grown you."
I had to laugh a little. I mean I'm pushing her further away but she has told countless times the marriage is over. If it is over then how can I be pushing her farther away. She has grown and I haven't yet I'm the one that wants to work on the marriage and she just wants to have an affair. How grown is that. Maybe ya'll can help me decifer this message.
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Hello totally,
I do not think you could express or do better than you did in your response to your W.
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This is her response to what I sent her mom.
"Everything you are doing is pushing me farther away. Over those 14 years, I have grown. You haven't. I've out grown you."
I had to laugh a little. I mean I'm pushing her further away but she has told countless times the marriage is over. If it is over then how can I be pushing her farther away. She has grown and I haven't yet I'm the one that wants to work on the marriage and she just wants to have an affair. How grown is that. Maybe ya'll can help me decifer this message. Well T2C, I'm glad you laughed. This is fogbabble. How to decipher... everything is your fault. Nothing is her responsibility. Typical wayward script. Keep Plan A'ing. No expectations though. Do it for you, so you learn how to be a spouse who meets EN's and know you did everything you could to help WW pull her head from her butt. BTW, I loved what you wrote to her. Good Plan A'ing.
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Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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This is her response to what I sent her mom.
"Everything you are doing is pushing me farther away. Over those 14 years, I have grown. You haven't. I've out grown you."
I had to laugh a little. I mean I'm pushing her further away but she has told countless times the marriage is over. If it is over then how can I be pushing her farther away. She has grown and I haven't yet I'm the one that wants to work on the marriage and she just wants to have an affair. How grown is that. Maybe ya'll can help me decifer this message.
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This is her response to what I sent her mom.
"Everything you are doing is pushing me farther away. Over those 14 years, I have grown. You haven't. I've out grown you."
I had to laugh a little. I mean I'm pushing her further away but she has told countless times the marriage is over. If it is over then how can I be pushing her farther away. She has grown and I haven't yet I'm the one that wants to work on the marriage and she just wants to have an affair. How grown is that. Maybe ya'll can help me decifer this message. Fogbabble, nothing more. Just stay the course and let this lift. Babblehorn
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Hey Melodylane, did you see my ww response. I had to laugh a little at it.
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Alright tomorrow is the big day for the exposure letter to go out. Right now I think my nerves are starting to get me. Wish me luck.
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Alright tomorrow is the big day for the exposure letter to go out. Right now I think my nerves are starting to get me. Wish me luck. Good luck and good job for doing the right thing. Try not to dwell on it, because you're doing it and you're doing the best thing to fight for your Marriage. Be loud and proud. Do you have your letters all written? What method are you doing? Phone calls, facebook or email?
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I have it written. I will send some out by email and probably some through Facebook.
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