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Stay strong T2C. Let us know how it goes...
Don't expect everyone to be supportive. Do it anyway, because it is the right thing to do.
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Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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She has opened her own bank account, what should I do.
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I have it written. I will send some out by email and probably some through Facebook. Post your exposure letter so we can give you some feedback. Read this for Facebook exposure and pointers. Facebook Exposure Letters and Pointers
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I have already posted Brainhurts. I think it is a couple pages back. Melodylane edited it a little bit, but I will repost when I get home.
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She has opened her own bank account, what should I do. How do you know this? Do you both still have a joint account together? If so I would transfer your money to another account and protect your finances. WW have a tendency to take the money. So please protect you, especially since you're still out of the house.
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I have already posted Brainhurts. I think it is a couple pages back. Melodylane edited it a little bit, but I will repost when I get home. Oh that's right. My bad.
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I'm not sure at this moment that it is her account or possibly her parents or cousin since they were over at the house while she was in charleston. All I know is there is no morning missing out of our joint account. I will know for sure on the 29th when her next check is suppose to go in.
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How did your exposure go?
You also moved back in today, correct?
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Didn't get a chance to do it. I was so devastated from the counselor visit. She sat in there an told him she had no regrets for having the affair. She said if she could do something like that then she knew it was over. What do you do to change her mind if she had no regrets or remorse for what she done? I am really confused now.
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More proof that counseling doesn't help couples recover from an affair. Ditch the counselor.
It is not uncommon for a WW to show no remorse. What you do is a stellar Plan A until the moment you Plan B her.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I know I still need to expose. That's not a problem. The problem is do I need to go from plan a to plan b now knowing what I know from the counselors visit.
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Keep with plan A. STOP listening to her fog talk. You cannot let this sway you from right action. No more counseling so she can go on and on with her fog.
You've got to do the best you can to unhook from what she's saying. See her as an addict who's lost her marbles because that's exactly what she is.
If you want to get charge of this situation, you have to unhook from her babble.
EXPOSE. asap.
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I know I still need to expose. That's not a problem. The problem is do I need to go from plan a to plan b now knowing what I know from the counselors visit. So what if she told the counselor didly? All you're doing is letting her continue down her foggy path without the exposure. She will say all sorts of craziness after you expose. She says this before you expose and she will continue with her wayward talk until she is out of the fog. Craziest things to come out of a wayward's piehole
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You need to fire this counselor.
Move back home tonight.
Ignore WW fog babble.
Forget plan B, you still need to plan A.
Why have you not exposed. So get back home and expose.
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How do I plan a if she moves out?
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How do I plan a if she moves out? Are you back home yet?
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Didn't get a chance to do it. I was so devastated from the counselor visit. She sat in there an told him she had no regrets for having the affair. She said if she could do something like that then she knew it was over. What do you do to change her mind if she had no regrets or remorse for what she done? I am really confused now. How is the plan going? Dont' get distracted by the antics of a falling down drunk. Stick to your plan. Move home. Expose the affair. Please don't post meaningless fogbabble anymore.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. and don't go to counseling anymore! Do something productive like washing your car..
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Didn't get a chance to do it. I was so devastated from the counselor visit. She sat in there an told him she had no regrets for having the affair. She said if she could do something like that then she knew it was over. What do you do to change her mind if she had no regrets or remorse for what she done? I am really confused now. How is the plan going? Dont' get distracted by the antics of a falling down drunk. Stick to your plan. Move home. Expose the affair. Please don't post meaningless fogbabble anymore. Did you move back home and expose yet?
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I just found out that adultery is a crime in south Carolina. It is punishable by a fine and possibly six months in jail.
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Two kids ages 5 and 3
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