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It's my pleasure to pray. I have seen Fireproof and it is an excellent movie. Kirk Cameron has been doing some seminars based off the movie which is very good if you happen to find him in your town. Real The Marriage Builders informatio which is where I started to help rebuild our marriage. It also has excellent advice. Seek Godly wisdom and avoid those who would destroy instead of help. May God bless you and answer your prayers.
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Did you ever expose?I saw your other post and am worried that the love dare will not work without a true repentant spouse. Why not try the MB plan? I am in need of some help. Please say a prayer for my husband. He cheated on me for 10 years, and now says that he wants to recommit to our marriage. I have told him that I need to see the remorse and empathy towards all the pain he has inflicted on me.I know helovesme,and iseven doing The Love Dare challenge. I pray so much for him to be able to tell me and show me how much I mean to him. We watched Fireproof together a As we watched that, I literally broke down crying. I told him that is what I need to see and feel when he apologizes.Is this asking toomuch.
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He is actually come to where I live, so my H got us tickets to go. I'm excited to get our marriage back on track. I know that is possible with God's help.
"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
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I am needing some input on Facebook exposure. When I exposed my husband, I did so to all our family and friends. I did not expose his WH work, but may do so soon. One of my requirements was for him to quit his job and get a new one, because the OW lives right down the street from his work. He has not done this yet, but I have given him to the middle of May to get this done or I will divorce him. Now to the reason for this post....I did not expose the OW. I know she has a FB account, and was wondering if I should do this or not?
"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
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"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
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Well, it would've been more effective if you had done it all in one fell swoop, but since that isn't an option anymore, make sure you finish your exposure in one fell swoop. First thing though is to copy all her FB friends into a Word document so that if she catches wind of what you are doing she can't shut you down. Make sure you also space out your messages a minute apart so that FB doesn't lock you out for spamming.
I haven't looked, but is the OW married? If so, start with her BH and go from there.
ETA- I looked back and saw that she isn't married.
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Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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The OW is not married. I really don't have a good reason of why I didn't expose her. I guess I was so focused on exposing my husband, that I didn't even think about her. I have copied all of her FB friends down, but was wondering if I should set up a dummy account to use or just use my own account?
"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
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If you are going to expose OW, then you should expose at their workplace as well, now. Don't wait.
Are you doing the rest of PA as well? And are you preparing for PB?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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The OW is not married. I really don't have a good reason of why I didn't expose her. I guess I was so focused on exposing my husband, that I didn't even think about her. I have copied all of her FB friends down, but was wondering if I should set up a dummy account to use or just use my own account? Use your own account. What purpose would it serve to try and hide behind a dummy account? It's not like anyone but you would be doing this.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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Read Exposure 101 thread for tips.
You use your own profile and have your pic changed to a nice family or couple one so OWs friends see what home she's wrecking.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Thanks everyone for your input. I will go get the FB exposure done. I will let you know what responses I get. Stay tuned.....
"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
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Sorry, I missed your question, Scotland..Not sure what PB is? Sorry, still pretty new here.
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PB is Plan B short form.
What about the exposure to his workplace? Will you be doing that at the same time?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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We are both teachers, and am little unsure about doing anything that might jeopardize my job. I have been telling all the teachers that I know about her, so it should get around quick. I did however, write an email to her principal. I was lucky because I actually know the principal pretty well. Tell me about the PB. Thank you for your help. As for my WH, I will begin exposure at his work soon.
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"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
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I sent out all exposure messages to the friends of OW. I haven't gotten any responses. Guess I will wait and see. I am seriously thinking about having my husband take a polygraph test. How would I go about getting this done? I want to believe my H when he says he ended it, but that's what he told me the first time. I'm hoping the poly will help me with that.
"We acquire the strength we have overcome."
Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
Recovery fully started 6/12
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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They're probably questioning her.
You make it a firm requirement. As in you won't even BEGIN to start recovery until you get one.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Thanks for the thread to the polygraph help. I will begin searching for one in my area? I will definitely make it a requirement.
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Me 43 yrs
Husband 48
Married: 18 years
1st DD 6/04
2nd DD Nov/10
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Listen to this radio clip on what Dr. Harley says a repentant WH does to be serious about recovery. Radio clip on what a WH should do if serious about recovery
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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