Here you go t2c, I'm wading through for Melody's directions.

Great job!!! Keep up the good work.

Thanks ML. Probably going to talk to a lawyer today just in case it goes that far. But I told her last night I didn't believe in divorce and I told her if she wanted to be with the OM then I wanted full custody of the kids.

That was a perfect response. And I very much agree you should see an attorney today because her next step will likely be a stunt to get you booted. You MUST go to Walmart and get a little pocket recorder if you don't have one. Have it on you at all times.

Keep up the good work!

Have you done all your exposures? If not, I would wrap that up today so you can focus on other things.

All exposures are done. Sent letters to her mom, sister, her uncle which is like a father figure to her, sent letters to my aunts, cousins,and my parents.

Sent letters to OM mom, sister, aunt, and some close friends I knew he had.

Very good.. You planned this out well.

OM's sister is no help. She told me it takes 2 to tango and I responded I know but I needed help on their end and then she responded back sorry it was between me and my WW.

That's cool. Some people are not going to help you and that is to be expected.

Back at home. WW doesn't know yet. She hasn't made it home. Let's see what happens. Got an appointment with lawyer tomorrow.

Good, finally. What Plan A action do you have planned? House clean, dinner made?

Have you heard anything back from your exposure?

Have you officially moved home? I am confused. I thought you already did that. You are doing that now? Please bring me up to speed. thanks!

t2c, did you get that VAR like you've been told? I certainly hope so.

Also, is this POSOM on parole or what? With us both living in South Carolina and having the law on our side, we have some unique weapons at our disposal that others just don't have.

It's okay, Wes - I agree, it does rhyme nicely

I dated a cop back in my twenties. He could run a plate, but it was all recorded by the computer in his car and his precinct. It HAD to be related to a legitimate police call. ie, he couldn't just pick a random plate on the street to run.

I know we have posters on this site who work with police and sheriff's departments - hopefully they can correct me if I'm wrong.

mb (I'll go back to proper address now), I have a "friend" whose wife is on the force and he told me 4 or 5 years ago they were severely cracking down on this kind of abuse of power. He used to get his wife to do it just for chuckles for him, although for the life of me I can't figure out why that would bring amusement to anyone. Anyway, cops started losing jobs over it and it came to a screeching halt because helping a friend with something like this wasn't worth ruining your career over.

I'll back this... I can access someone's criminal history in my job. Years ago I remember my supervisor checking out any potential date to ensure he wasn't a sex offender Think she'd been in the job too long.

You can't do it so easy these days. Every time I access someone's convictions it is logged and I have to provide a reason.

I work with Sheriffs as well, same deal. If caught doing something dodgy, your job is at risk.

Although there are still those who do take the risk. I know someone who managed to get a friend to run a history on his ex-wife's OM. There were pages of it...

Yes, it is a violation of policy which can result in discipline or termination. In some circumstances it can also lead to additional criminal charges.

For CPIC (Canadian database) and NCIC (the American database), you are required to detail each inquiry (plate, person, etc) with a specific reason for the search (you need to actually write - "registered owner reporting this plate stolen" or whatever. There are frequent and random audits, and whoever makes the inquiry has the inquiry stamped with their name.

If you must legitimately query your wife, husband, friend, family -> it is considered proper practice to ask a co-worker to do so, which I have had to do. It absolves you of any liability and quite frankly most of us don't want to read that anyways!

There are also secret ghost inquiries attached... so if you decide to query Britney Spears or whatever, you will have federal authorities calling within minutes asking you what/why. I had to do this for a celebrity once (legitimate reason) and the feds knew in minutes! LOL!

Bottom line - DON'T DO IT, NOT WORTH IT!!!

These records can be searched legitimately within reason if you hire a private investigator that goes through proper legal avenues (all provinces/states have freedom of information/public record laws).

Hope that helps

Update...

Moved back into the house last night. WW wanted to leave and take the lids but I wouldn't let her take the kids. So she called her mother and her mother came over and told me to let them take the kids. I told her no that the boys were staying right here. She threaten to call the cops and I told her to go ahead that I wasn't doing anything wrong. WW wife finally decided to stay because she knew she couldn't make me leave. She slept in the oldest boy room and I slept in the youngest boy room because I couldn't bring myself to sleep in the bed where they had been. I think the marriage is over because her family doesn't think she done any thing wrong. WW mom told my dad I was a sorry man for not letting go and leaving. Her mom also said I was making things worse. Do I believe what they say, nope. It just hurts that people can think that way in a situation like this.

I am so dang proud of you for standing your ground!! You stayed there and defended your kids!! Can I give you a big hug?

And the marriage is not over until the fat lady sings. Your marriage has a better chance today than it did yesterday. It might not work out, but at the very least you are in your home protecting your children.

And shame, shame, shame on her mother! For her to condone her daughters adultery is shameful and uncaring.

Please contact a lawyer today in case your wife tries to boot you out. We have had wives call the police and say they "feel scared" and were able to get restraining orders.

Can you take the day off work and stay there with your boys?