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update, Just walked into my house and caught the guy in my house. I told him to leave and he left with no problem. Probably because he is a convicted felon and just got out of jail.
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update, Just walked into my house and caught the guy in my house. I told him to leave and he left with no problem. Probably because he is a convicted felon and just got out of jail.  I applaud your efforts. I walked in unannounced almost two years ago and said Lucy-I'm home. My DD and I had moved out and were gone for 5 months. WW kept breaking into the house during PLan B. When my DD moved back-because she missed her friends-went for a weekend and did not come back-I decided I had to be there for my then 17 yo daughter. Sorry to say I couldn't save the M but I stayed with the ship until all was lost. I pray you have better luck. My WW also was/is (still) full blown alcoholic. nESRE
M 29 yrs
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update, Just walked into my house and caught the guy in my house. I told him to leave and he left with no problem. Probably because he is a convicted felon and just got out of jail. Nicely done!!  I wish more of the men we have frequenting the boards had your clang.
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update, Just walked into my house and caught the guy in my house. I told him to leave and he left with no problem. Probably because he is a convicted felon and just got out of jail. Good job. So you announced that your back home, correct? What did she do?
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She just texted me wanting to talk joint custody of the kids. Should I tell her it is either work on the marriage on else I want full custody.
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She just texted me wanting to talk joint custody of the kids. Should I tell her it is either work on the marriage on else I want full custody. Yup. Didn't you also say that adultery in S.C. is punishable by law?
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yes it is. She told me in the text that she would not see om anymore but I just checked our wireless providers site and she is still texting him as of 20 minutes ago.
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just got finished sending exposure letter to all the om friends and his mom and sister.
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just got finished sending exposure letter to all the om friends and his mom and sister. Good and you're back home also?
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will be tomorrow. she thinks she is coming over to pick the kids up from my parents house. Little does she know I will be home with the kids. She doesn't think divorce is going to affect the kids but she wants to put my oldest one who is five through counseling. There's some fogbabble for ya and one for the craziest things waywards will say.
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Yes she is still very wayward because the affair is still on.
When you get home you be the best husband and father ever. Have some flowers and dinner ready. But do not be a doormat be a strong man and tell her you will not have three in your M.
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I just wish it hadn't taken me a month to do this. Don't know if I will be able to sleep tonight. I need to stay positive though for my kids and my marriage.
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You think melodylane will come back and help me through the rest of this.
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Read these you will see strength. Motarman update Mortarman Custody
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You think melodylane will come back and help me through the rest of this. Ask her and see.
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update, Just walked into my house and caught the guy in my house. I told him to leave and he left with no problem. Probably because he is a convicted felon and just got out of jail. Wow t2c, just wow. Well done. IMO the POSOM likely left cause to him your WW just ain't worth a fight. Your message is loud and clear. She just texted me wanting to talk joint custody of the kids. Should I tell her it is either work on the marriage on else I want full custody. I think a warrior has been born. Hats off t2c, what you are doing shows true courage. No lovebusting though. Now you are giving her some stick, ensure you remember to Plan A your butt off with a lot of carrot.
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WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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I agree! The reason she is frantically texting about custody, etc. is because OM was probably like, "Dude, I thought you said your husband is out of the picture. I don't need this [censored]. Get a divorce or count me out." NOW is the time to go full steam plan MB. Don't stutter, just execute the plans NO MATTER what she says. She's about to turn into Linda Blair in the Exeorcist, especially if you did a complete exposure. Her head will spin and hateful words will spew out of her mouth like Green Pea oup. Stay strong and loving. You can do this.
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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The OM facebook page has now dissapeared but not before I exposed the affair to his family and friends. She is very much still lying because the text she sent me said he was out of the picture but then she texted back and forth to OM until one thirty in the morning. Boy ya'll were right about how waywards talk. If anybody can gte a hold of Melodylane please tell her I could use her help now.
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Melody Lane has already told you what to do - in this thread. Just back up a few pages and read her advice. It still applies. Just read and do what you have been advised to do. 
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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Mwahahaha, the OM's FB has disappeared BECAUSE of exposure. Sorry POSOM, but you can't hide.
Don't bother about what WW is texting. All you need to know is, she is still wayward.
Melody will likely be along shortly. Keep bumping your posts.
And have faith in yourself t2c... you are doing exceptionally well!
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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