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The reunion group knows whats going on.Right after exposing to OMW,OM closed down his fb ,then WW closed down hers.The group then tried to track WW down.They caught up with her just before she boards the plane to return home.Shortly after ww closed her fb,she asked one of the reunion member to post on their group fb that she regrets for hurting me and that she needs to get things right and that they should cease all contacts with her.That member lied about posting it for her.This group is very private and their spouses arent allow to join their gatherings.Photos they took at these gatherings are very unsettling.
If I tell her during plan B its a one way trip then theres no chance of R even when she feels remorse and wants to recommit to our marriage......I was told that would be an exception Can you afford to call the coaching center? I would go see a lawyer to get advice. Get prepared for Plan B. Do you know what you need for Plan B?
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Everything in my life is a mess now....business,finance,only been sleeping 2 hours a day....I cant afford coaching especially now that I will need to deal with her leaving.
I cant plan B right away for 2 reasons.WW is my biz partner and I didnt do a good job in Plan A.Is it true once they left the house,they rarely come back...read from neverguessed posts?
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Everything in my life is a mess now....business,finance,only been sleeping 2 hours a day....I cant afford coaching especially now that I will need to deal with her leaving.
I cant plan B right away for 2 reasons.WW is my biz partner and I didnt do a good job in Plan A.Is it true once they left the house,they rarely come back...read from neverguessed posts? You need to go see a lawyer, especially with your business.
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WW is not asking for anything from the biz.I just need her to help run the biz until I find someone to replace her.
WW just asked me about MB concepts.She wants to improve the odds for a successful relationship with OM with MB guidance and help.
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WW is not asking for anything from the biz.I just need her to help run the biz until I find someone to replace her.
WW just asked me about MB concepts.She wants to improve the odds for a successful relationship with OM with MB guidance and help. You need to add what she said to this thread Craziest Things to come out of a Wayward's Piehole
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Theres just too many to list.We laughed about it just last week when she was temporarily out of the fog.I was so happy then.Will AD's help with my insomnia?
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Theres just too many to list.We laughed about it just last week when she was temporarily out of the fog.I was so happy then.Will AD's help with my insomnia? They helped me sleep some. Did you listen to the clip I posted for you of Dr. H talking about AD's? It's at the 3:10 mark. Make an appointment with your doctor.
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WW is not asking for anything from the biz.I just need her to help run the biz until I find someone to replace her. Regardless of what WW SAYS, look at her ACTIONS. Don't take her word for it that she will not want anything from the biz. Protect yourself. Plan A or Plan B. Protect your finances. WW just asked me about MB concepts.She wants to improve the odds for a successful relationship with OM with MB guidance and help. Wow. Just wow. Definitely one of the foggiest. She wants AFFAIR coaching rather than MARRIAGE coaching. From MARRIAGE BUILDERS  Please go see your doc asap. I'm not sure about AD's, didn't use them, but Dr Harley recommends them. I do use sleeping tablets, resting is so important to be able to deal with the trauma you are going through. Hang in there!
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WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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I think I will plan A for a bit .
I could plan A here in where we live.She said she will stay for 3-6 months for the biz.
Or I could plan A at her home country where she wants to return to .Biz is relocatable.
After 3-6 months,plan b regardless of location.
My question is during plan B,is it zero communication/contact or can it be restricted to just business only?
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No in Plan B there is no contact what so ever. Completely dark. Why not email Dr. Harley at MBRADIO? Read this on plan B How To Plan B properly
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So is she going to be here with you for the next 3 months?
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xtreme, I am worried about your emotional health. Are you really sure you are able to Plan A whilst there is an active affair going on?
You sound exhausted and confused. Dr H recommends BH's Plan A longer, but only if they can. Do not risk your own well-being for this.
Please get to your doctor asap.
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WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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BH,she said she will stay 3-6 months max,then she leaves.OM promised her he will get a divorce.OMW finally replied with bible verses and said this is a test from God and she will continue to do whats right for the family.She still loves her husband and asks me for forgiveness.Things are not going well for her either.I hope she could keep her husband in the marriage.WW views their divorce as an indicator of how much OM loves her.
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xtreme, I am worried about your emotional health. Are you really sure you are able to Plan A whilst there is an active affair going on?
You sound exhausted and confused. Dr H recommends BH's Plan A longer, but only if they can. Do not risk your own well-being for this.
Please get to your doctor asap. I am exhausted ...had only 2 hours of sleep.I am not sure if i could handle plan A but i'm hoping this time may be a bit different becos the A is not active.WW said she will NC until OM gets a divorce.
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BH,she said she will stay 3-6 months max,then she leaves.OM promised her he will get a divorce.OMW finally replied with bible verses and said this is a test from God and she will continue to do whats right for the family.She still loves her husband and asks me for forgiveness.Things are not going well for her either.I hope she could keep her husband in the marriage.WW views their divorce as an indicator of how much OM loves her. Well since your WW and OM are both addicts whom are addicted to each other the best thing for everyone is for them to be apart. So when she gets home you will need to snoop better than you ever have. You need to make sure and watch her email, phone, every possible way that they can communicate. You need to make sure they stay NC. Then you need to be the husband she fell in love with again. Did you make an appointment with your doctor?
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I got some AD's from the doc.Its deja vu again.I went to see the doctor shortly after D day.I am going thru the same symptoms as before.
I dont know if I could get her to fall in love with me again now since her foggy head is fully occupied by OM.
She doesnt even want to talk about anything except work stuff.Ever since the A,we argue a lot especially when her waywardness kicks in.
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Yes her head is all about OM because she just got another hit off the crack pipe. This is why you need to take this opportunity to Plan A your butt off.
You still need to seek legal advice to protect yourself.
Did you write Dr. Harley? They are so good, that they usually respond in a day.
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She doesnt even want to talk about anything except work stuff.Ever since the A,we argue a lot especially when her waywardness kicks in. You need to stop all lovebusters. Stop them now.
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OK,i will try my best to ignore her fogbabble.
I wrote to Dr H in the past for the radio show.No reply.
Maybe I'll write again.
But I am so exhausted from saving my M.She said it would be ok to never talk or see me again after 20 years being together.At that moment,my heart was crushed so badly,i lost all desire to win her back.
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I wrote to Dr H in the past for the radio show.No reply. I have notified Dr Harley.
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