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Thanks so much!Should I write a new letter again?
You all are my angels.Ever since dday,I've not been the same and I didnt have anyone I could talk to except the kind and patient people here .You guys are like family .Nowadays,many people are indifferent to affairs.
MB,God and lots of prayers are whats getting me thru each day.Thanks again.
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I would write another or forward the other one.
One way to make sure they receive it and that it doesn't go to spam is too make sure you put something in your subject line.
We know xp because we've all been there. Did you get some sleep?
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Ok,I will write another one....do i summarize from day1?
Thanks for asking.I didnt get any sleep,I went jogging and hopefully the exercise would help .
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Ok,I will write another one....do i summarize from day1?
Thanks for asking.I didnt get any sleep,I went jogging and hopefully the exercise would help . Sure. Just give him a summary of all the bullet points. If you give your number you can be a caller an he will read your email AND talk to you. Then you can ask questions.
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I am soo depressed today.I am blaming myself for not staying with WW and return home with her.As soon as I left her,toxic friend called her and messed with her head.Next day,more toxic friends tracked her down on the way to the airport.They caught her just before she boarded.If they had just been minutes late,they would have missed her.They got her on the phone with OM.That was the last straw!!That call put WW back deeply in the fog.She took a sniff of the coke again after 3 weeks of withdrawal.I feel bad I wasnt vigilant enough.WW almost made it....she was asking me about MB principles and had shown interest b4 that call..
Is this meant to be?
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Is it ok to direct OMW to MB?
OMW has been messaging me a lot lately.
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Is it ok to direct OMW to MB?
OMW has been messaging me a lot lately. Yes direct her here. Wish all who have to experience infidelity could find MB. I'm going to caution your contact with OM's BW. While you both need to stay in contact to verify NC between your spouses, you both are very vulnerable for RA. We see them all the time. So please heed my caution and protect your Lovebank.
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OK,i will be cautious and protect my lovebank.
I know she is very weak now and OM does want to divorce her.This is very bad news for me and her.WW will leave as soon as that happens.I pray that she could save her M with MB.
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OK,i will be cautious and protect my lovebank.
I know she is very weak now and OM does want to divorce her.This is very bad news for me and her.WW will leave as soon as that happens.I pray that she could save her M with MB. Send her this link How To Survive Infidelity Yes you both have a very good chance to save your marriages. 1. Because both of your spouse are in different countries and back home with their spouses 2. If you can get OM's BW onborad with MB then you have ammunition at both ends.
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BH,
BAD NEWS!OM's BW just msged me and said yes to divorce.She did not wish to and has been holding out for awhile.But she said she couldnt take the verbal abuse anymore.
WW was talking about not just separation now,she wants a D.
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I wrote to Dr H in the past for the radio show.No reply. I have notified Dr Harley. I just emailed Dr Harley again with subject heading:xtremepain from the MB forum.Thanks.
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BH,
BAD NEWS!OM's BW just msged me and said yes to divorce.She did not wish to and has been holding out for awhile.But she said she couldnt take the verbal abuse anymore.
WW was talking about not just separation now,she wants a D. Well they aren't divorced yet. Did you direct her to MB? Let us know what Dr. H says. Isn't your WW back with you right now?
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WW is back with me at home but will move out in 3-6months.I think she is just waiting for their D to finalize.
OMW msgd me today and said she is giving up becos of the verbal abuse from OM.I told her to hang in here and sent her the MB link.
I will let u know what Dr H has to say.
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WW is back with me at home but will move out in 3-6months.I think she is just waiting for their D to finalize.
OMW msgd me today and said she is giving up becos of the verbal abuse from OM.I told her to hang in here and sent her the MB link.
I will let u know what Dr H has to say. Now work on today to show your WW what a wonderful life and M she will have with you. Help her through withdrawal and fill her LB back up. Get her into the doctors for some AD.
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I dont think she is going thru withdrawal now.She is planning for D and starting a new life with OM.She is just waiting for OM to go thru with his D.She is now back in the fog with her cold and unresponsive attitude.
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WW caught me snooping.Got angry ,threatened me and demand I stop.What do I say?
She is looking up for D atty now.
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WW caught me snooping.Got angry ,threatened me and demand I stop.What do I say? *smile* She is looking up for D atty now. She likes to yank your chain. She knows you might panic if she throws the "D word" out there, and give her free cake to eat. Show no reaction to this. In fact, *smile* and ask if she'd like a cup of tea or anything from the store. "Honey, I'm going to the grocery market. Can I get you anything? Some yummy cake?"
If you react to every crazy thing she says, you will wear yourself out.
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She downloaded a separation agreement and wants me to sign it.
She promised to stay a bit longer for the biz but are cutting it short becos of my snooping.Do I continue to snoop?How should I handle the agreement?She is threatening to leave.
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WW caught me snooping.Got angry ,threatened me and demand I stop.What do I say? *smile* She is looking up for D atty now. She likes to yank your chain. She knows you might panic if she throws the "D word" out there, and give her free cake to eat. Show no reaction to this. In fact, *smile* and ask if she'd like a cup of tea or anything from the store. "Honey, I'm going to the grocery market. Can I get you anything? Some yummy cake?"
If you react to every crazy thing she says, you will wear yourself out.
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Read Pep's advice again........
Read it again......
Did you consult with your lawyer on the business?
I wouldn't sign the separation agreement.
Say "I don't talk divorce, I only talk marraiage"My lawyer talks divorce.
She's trying to wear you down and you're letting her.
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