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This is what she just told me.
"I know you are upset, but not paying the bills is not good for the boys."
Umm... Like splitting up is.
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This is what she just told me.
"I know you are upset, but not paying the bills is not good for the boys."
Umm... Like splitting up is. What is she talking about? What bills are you not paying?
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Well I hadn't paid a couple bills like the car insurance and cable bills but it isn't like I haven't been going through something right at the moment.
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Are you back in your house?
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Keep repeating "I talk marriage, my lawyer talks divorce"
Make it clear that you aren't working any "deal" with her. That you will go for full custody and have her charged with adultery.
Didn't you say you're in SC and that adultery is punishable by law? Play this card, my friend. Aren't you in SC?
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Yes, Brainhurts I am in south Carolina and sorry Mel after staying there a couple days I couldn't stay there any longer knowing he was in my house. I know I need to go back but I may have to have meds to go back.
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You need to be in the house, she can file in SC for abandonment if your out of the house.
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Yes, you should move back into the house PRONTO!
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Already talked to the lawyer about that. I have to be out of the house for a year before she file on abandonment.
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Yes, Brainhurts I am in south Carolina and sorry Mel after staying there a couple days I couldn't stay there any longer knowing he was in my house. I know I need to go back but I may have to have meds to go back. Well, he can't be in the house if you are there. I dont see how this is going to work if you aren't there. Leaving facilitates the affair and makes it much less likely that you will save the marriage. I don't understand why you keep leaving?
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I understand Mel. I need to find out what legal action do I have to keep my kids in the house when she moves out.
On a side not, I was just threaten by the other man using his girlfriends Facebook account.
" This is **edit** **edit** you homeboy and get the **edit** off my girls page and take care of your on **edit** up life...Good luck!!!"
Last edited by MBLBanker; 05/05/12 07:21 PM. Reason: Removing real name. Pls do not bypass the profanity filter.
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I understand Mel. I need to find out what legal action do I have to keep my kids in the house when she moves out.
On a side not, I was just threaten by the other man using his girlfriends Facebook account.
" This is **edit** **edit** you homeboy and get the **edit** off my girls page and take care of your on **edit** up life...Good luck!!!" t2c, you need to show this message to your WW. Call me an idiot, but I'm pretty doggone sure she's been thinking all along that she was his girl. What a pity. Oh, and if it were me, I would reply back with this: Look, you POS, you mess with my life, I mess with yours. You continue, I continue. You push me, I push back. Get the picture? Stay the hell away from my wife or you're going to fully realize what I'm capable of.
Hope you have a great day!But you need to get back in that house now! You can't fight a war when you've vacated the war zone. PS- I'm in Columbia t2c. Where are you located?
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Wasnt this the same guy you kicked out of your home and he said nothing? What a chicken having to hide the behind the computer.
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Logans_run, I stay in Florence. Yes that is the same guy. He also has to hide behind his girlfriend using her page instead of his and it took him over a week to do it.
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TW is in cola......
POSOM sounds wimpy......gotta hide behind skirt tails......
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I second TigerWes's idea.
You need to show your WW the message and say "see you aren't his only piece of tail he's getting. Don't you feel special?"
Then you need to send loser boy a message. I like TW's message.
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How do you go about telling your WW not to bribe the kids to get them to go home with her without it being a demand.
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Just got finished cutting grass for ww but mainly for the kids. About half way through lawn mower broke and had to finish cutting the whole backyard with a weed eater.
Thinking about sending flowers to ww for mothers day but haven't decided.
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How do you go about telling your WW not to bribe the kids to get them to go home with her without it being a demand. Huh? Did you go back to your house like Melodylane told you? Waywards love to bribe the children because it makes them think, in their wayward mind, that they are a good parent. How are things going with your lawyer?
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I meet with a new one on the 29th. Hopefully this will be better than the last one that just told me give her everything and settle out if court for $1,500. I sent ww a email explaining how I was going to file if we couldn't work on the marriage and she basically answered back that it was over.
I think I am going to try and send her flowers for mothers day to try to stay in some sort of plan a but I think it may be about time for plan b except for the communication about the kids.
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