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i couldn't play the video? it loaded, but nothing ever happened, even after (repeatedly, lol) pushing play.
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Today is our 5 year wedding anniversary...  It's going to be a very rough day!!!
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Hang tough. New chapter for you. Don't know what it will bring, but do not be afraid of a new story.
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Do whatever nourishes you. Get a pedicure, indulge in Starbucks/Coldstone, whatever is a treat for you. Walk on the beach, shop at the mall, watch a favorite movie, etc. Know in your heart that you gave all you could, and be at peace. Know that the good thoughts of many of us on this board are with you.
BW Me, 56
WH, him 58
DS 25, 20, DD 23
EA (woman from his past contacted him on Facebook and EA started 7/09)
DD 8/9/09
NC 9/22/09
EA restarts 7/20/12
I learn of it 4/11/13
DD 7/8/13
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Then today is Starfish Day and whatever she wants for her treat she must have!
We are all rooting for you.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Then today is Starfish Day and whatever she wants for her treat she must have!
We are all rooting for you. Second that!! May your day be full of joy.
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Thinking of you, Starfish!
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Thinking of you too star. I log on every morning and every night to check for updates. Hope you're doing well and smiling from time to time :-)
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Him WS - 30
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Today is our 5 year wedding anniversary... It's going to be a very rough day!!! This is the last thing you posted on here. What frightens me most is when a BS goes silent, it usually means they stopped following MB. I'm hoping that's not the case here.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Today is our 5 year wedding anniversary... It's going to be a very rough day!!! This is the last thing you posted on here. What frightens me most is when a BS goes silent, it usually means they stopped following MB. I'm hoping that's not the case here. Star??? What is happening?
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Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Hi Star,
I am right about to go into Plan B and am scared. I was thinking of you and wondering how you are doing.
Married since 2005.
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WH 29
No children
D-Day 3/5/12
Caller on radioshow 4/10/12
Dark Plan B, 5/3/12
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Indie --
Aren't you her IM? Did she fall off the MB program completely?
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Hello everyone! Haven't been feeling well and have had a lot to do with my FMLA, etc.
WH left a note for me at lunch today:
I can no longer be kept locked from our home, the home I pay the mortgage on.� I'm requesting that you have a key made for me today and I'll come pick it up after work.� You can let me know where I can pick it up from.� I will not come to the house unanounced.� You will be notified when I need to come get something.� You can choose to be there or not be there, that is up to you.
This is just ridiculous... he is not right in the head to even think its appropriate to ask me for a key. I thought my neighbor left the note and then I realized it was from him.
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Its unlucky that you read it. I did a similar thing because it was just one line written on what looked like a bill.
Throw it out. Breathe. Reboot.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Unless you have filed for D (or legal separation) and have a standing order that you have exclusive right to the home, your WH is legally allowed to enter the house. You don't have to make him a key but he can enter the house. Just an FYI.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I'm not responding or abiding by his wishes. He wants his soccer bag, so should I just leave it on the porch and not answer the door or completely ignore him?
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Got it. Sorry couldn't read through 170 pgs.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I'm not responding or abiding by his wishes. He wants his soccer bag, so should I just leave it on the porch and not answer the door or completely ignore him? Did his request for the soccer bag go through IM? If not, then you've got your answer. DO NOT read any more mail that he leaves for you. THis is something he could have sent through your IM and has chosen not to. While you may need to legally let him in, ATM, I would make him make you. KWIM?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Make him get a lawyer to get in, or make him break in so you can report an intruder to police (they never do break in, though do they? They want the BS to LET them in) don't roll over and let him in.
Any legal claim he makes that you're witholding property can be easily disproved by your IM emails. Its easily proven that he has been offered a civilised way to get his things.
Don't respond to the soccer bag request. It would be so so easy for him to ask your IM for this. Why hasn't he? Its a test to see whether you're reading the notes. If he really wants it, he'll ask your IM
How did he ask for the bag? Same note, different note or something else?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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