I should have anticipated it. He has a huge KISA (or wanting to be seen as a fake one) complex so it wouldnt have sat well with him to not contact me. Its also a lame excuse not to use IM because of 'sensitive info' Really what is she going to do with my home insurance details?

Though all he has to do to speak with me directly is go NC with blackwidow. Its not hard. She's a horrible, horrible person.

Here in The Colonies, we call trellis trellis.

Maybe they had trellis on the Mayflower and thats why its the same

You have a backyard?

Maybe you want a nice little doggy (a big one....lol).

(just kidding cause a dog is a big responsibility and makes travel more complicated in life).

I would LOVE a dog. A husky puppy with piercing blue eyes. Id call him Monday.

One day. It'd be totally cruel to have a dog now. Im only at home about 15 hours a week not counting sleep.

Spoke to the insurance company. I managed to get the policy number by giving them surnames, addresses and DOBs.

I have to call them back tomorrow because I left the crime number from the police at home. But I should have gotten the ball rolling.

I'm not sure what to do now. I think I should just let it all blow over.

I was tempted to have my IM send him a set of rules, that in future he could send sensitive account info to my sis, but only if I OKd it beforehand and I told her I was expecting it and briefed her on what she could tell me. Otherwise I wont accept any messages from her.

But I cant really think what else I would need from now on. Unless he changes the insurance policy again.

Maybe I should let everything drop. I think I did pretty well in sending him the message he can't break my plan.

I didnt accept my sister's text. (I need to ahve a word with her too. In future she must automatically reply that the IM needs to OK it and I need to tell her its alright before she can pass anything along)

I hung up on him when he called.

I think I've done all I can.

Let it drop.

I agree, you have handled it well. Keep yourself occupied, you know what can happen when you have even the smallest break in Plan B.

Im0 decorating and having some ladies over for the weekend so I am too busy for his malarkey!!!

The girlies will help me paint, then I'm buying dinner as thankyou and then we hit the dancefloor.

Dancing! Woohoo fun!

Painted my spare room and danced my shoes off this weekend.

Spare room, which I use for my dressing table and other girlie nonsense, is now a lovely restful aqua colour. Makes me think of the beach. I have calico curtains too.

Its exciting because you can get beachy accessories really cheaply and go to town on the theme at little expense. I'm going to do myself up a little haven. Garlands of starfish and shells, oystershells glued to make the frame on a mirror, wicker chests. I have two big white canvases which have remained blank due to lack of inspiration. Think I'm going to paint a red and white lighthouse with lots of sea spray on one. The other Ill paint bundled up sticks of seaside rock candy, showing the lettering through the middle. But instead of the name of the seaside resort like 'blackpool rock' ill have different lettering like 'rock the boat' 'by the seaside' and 'rock star'

Excited!!!!

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Awesome. What a great idea. Your own retreat. I like the idea of painting the canvases.

What a peaceful, happy place:) Good for you! And how wonderful if you can feel inspired to paint. I used to write - need to get in the groove again.

It makes me happy to picture your happy place, so I hope you're enjoying the new room.

How are you Indiegirl, your obviously enjoying that peaceful retreat.

Well, I WAS hf, and getting on with lots of Plan B plans, but now I feel all stressed again.

I'm having a bit of a work issue. It's not very MB related, but everyone here is so wise and I need to VENT.

My boss sent me a very snotty email today about my leaving on time yesterday (the nerve!) without telling her I was going to do that. I sent an email back asking if she wanted to discuss it and I heard nothing back. She's a proper little coward with stuff like that. I'm happy to stay late, if I am free to do it, and if I get the time back, but that's not what she's saying. She is not coming over to ask for extra help, she's requesting that I wait to be dismissed like a schoolgirl from the headmistresses office EVERY DAY. That will quickly drive me crazy.

It's clearly her way of making sure that no one leaves on time, because people will be too intimidated to, if they have to flag it up to her that's what they are doing.

Not me though.

I know she's getting pressure from her boss and that she lets him bully her.

I felt like replying 'The shift rota is on your desk. If you want to know what time I will be leaving, check the rota.'

But I want to be professional and I'm too sarcastic right now.

I'm thinking of giving her until 6pm tomorrow to come back to me, (that's what time my shift ends tomorrow). If she hasn't by then, I'll go over and tell her that I am leaving. If she asks me to stay, I'll say: "Sorry no, I have plans. (which I do) But may I ask why you need me to tell me whn I am leaving? I dont understand the reason and I would like to help, if I can understand why you need me to remind you of the time."

What do you think?

Indie,

I think less confrontation is always best with mean bosses (and with bosses in general). Maybe I am old school on that. I would leave on time, stop by to say bye, and if she needs something done, you can tell her you will do it first thing in the morning.

You could do it every day, then every other day, then wean her out of it. If she says anything, try to understand what's behind the request.

Just some ideas...

Maybe I'm a hothead. HEHEHE Because I like Indie's, but I see the validity in Estrela's POV.

I'm definitely a hothead so I'm probably not a good source because I would've already said what Indies said but to her face.

I'm very professional so I wouldn't have dropped any F bombs but I would've definitely confronted her. I would've scheduled a one on one to discuss it..

Maybe that's why even the guys are scared of me at work. Hmm maybe I need some of estrela to rub off on me?

i'm w/BH on this one. diplomacy is not my strong suit, which is why i'm an assistant head and not a head of dept. i do not have the patience for BS and no desire for a position that would necessitate having to put up w/it. it would really peeve me off, a boss waiting until the last minute to say they need something done - that sounds like a control issue to me, versus something that really needs doing. however you decide to handle it, i hope it works!