Ok, maybe some have seen my posts in marriage builders 101 or maybe not. But me and my husband don't get along at all. We are in constant silent treatment because if we get in a fight he says so many bad things to me that I hurt so bad I just shut off. We have a lot of bad history too other than that with him lying, hiding stuff and denying things. And all of our fights stem from miscommunication. I say what's bothering me and he immediately jumps to defense mode. We have been together almost nine years but married for two. We have two boys together. But this is the second silent treatment we've been through in 3 weeks. I sent him an email so I can tell him how I feel because since we fight so much I can never say all I want to say so I did. He didn't respond to me and I told him he had plenty of time to respond and I'm tired of this I want out. I really want to leave him but I'm so shaky and nervous feeling right now and I don't know why. I saw a clairvoyant yesterday and she described him to me. As a dark entity and she said she sees a lot of hidden agendas, among other things. And that's exactly him. He's such a different person and when I'm around him I always feel a bad feeling and I always feel like he's up to something. But now that I told him I want out I don't know where to go from here.

I saw a clairvoyant yesterday and she described him to me. As a dark entity and she said she sees a lot of hidden agendas, among other things. And that's exactly him.

Well she knows some people who are going to assist me with getting everything done. It's just waiting for the call that has me on edge. I haven't seeked a lawyer yet.

She use to live here in town so she's going to talk to them they are all legal professionals that can assist with the divorce process. To make sure I don't end up with nothing and nowhere to go.

I haven't contacted a lawyer yet. Are they really that necessary? My cousin told me about the paralegal she used and was really good. I'm wondering, I just need advice here. But should I move before I start the process? He's not going to leave. My gut feeling says I need to get out of here. He comes home from work on wednesday and I'm not sure if he'll be off one week or two. I have enough to move right now I'm just worried that things won't work out for now and what if I don't have the money for next months rent. So should I move and then file or should I stay here and deal with what he's going to put me through and file.

We have 2 children. I'm going to drive around and look for rentals. I don't know what else to do. And just hope he doesn't cut me off financially.

Have you checked to see if there is inexpensive legal aid in your area? Can you talk to Children's Services and try to determine what options you have?

When I was in law school, it had legal clinics staffed by law students who were under the supervision and guidance of a practicing lawyer/staff member. The clinic offered free legal services to those who could afford it. This gave me the idea to do a Yahoo search for law schools in NJ. Seton Hall's law school has a Family Law Clinic!!! Here is the description of what they offer:

The Family Law Clinic provides free legal services to individuals needing representation in a wide variety of family law matters. The caseload may include both contested and uncontested divorces; establishment, modification and enforcement of child and spousal support; custody and visitation cases; international child abduction cases; adoptions; and litigation on behalf of victims of domestic violence. Students may also serve as court-appointed law guardians for children in termination of parental rights cases and custody and visitation cases.

The work includes interviewing, investigation, legal research, motion practice, discovery, negotiation, preparation of lay and expert witnesses, contested and uncontested trials and hearings, oral argument of motions, and the preparation of trial and appellate briefs. Students work under the supervision of the clinical professors, but assume primary responsibility for their assigned cases, including court appearances.

The Rutgers Cambden Campus also has a Child and Family Law Clinic.

To contact either school's clinic, I would just call the law school's main number and asked to be transfered to the Family Law Clinic.

Also, lawyers are encouraged to do pro bono (gratis) work for those who can't afford legal services and some states even require that lawyers have a certain number of pro bono hours a year. Here is a link to various pro bono organizations in NJ. http://www.legalhandle.com/pro-bono-attorneys-New-Jersey.html

Thanks for the info. I'll look into it more.

I will. And no I have no family or friends who can help me or give me a place to stay.