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Originally Posted By: Fred_in_VA

Hi Kirby,

I use a dedicated email account for MB, as I felt it was necessary for my IM during my Plan B. I haven't checked it in ages.


I was afraid that might be the case.


Me: BS 51
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Originally Posted By: Fred_in_VA
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As I have been told more than once, "I'm right where I need to be" at this time. I don't have to like it, but I do have to accept it.



I just read something similar to this the other day. You don't have to like your current situation but you have to continue to trust God through it all.

ETA: This is actually what the quote said: I was able to say, Lord, I dont understand and I dont even like this, but God I trust You!

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Actually, I *do* have a small update!

I received an email this afternoon telling me I had gotten a raise at the running store!

(I only work there 10-15 hours a week).

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Congrats Fred! That means someone is noticing you doing your job well because raises are hard to come by these days!!!


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Congrats, Fred!


Me: BS 51
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Separated: 08/13/09 after 25 years of marriage
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Fred,
It's good to hear an update, and it sounds like your life is going well! I hope you get your leg problems addressed soon, it's hard to have our quality of life curtailed.

AND it's great you got a raise, even if it is your part time job...the recognition means a lot.

Good luck on your move!


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OK, on to the next (minor) update:

My rental application was approved. Now, I just need confirmation that the bank has accepted the offer on my house. I should hear today or tomorrow...

If and when it comes through, it's likely that I'll have to close and move all on the same day - March 15. Ugh.

Now begins the task of de-cluttering and downsizing.


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Love your location ......

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Love your location ......

Quote:
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Back at'cha!

"Shrek's Swamp," indeed.

(Why not "Strawberry Fields?")


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Originally Posted By: Fred_in_VA

"Shrek's Swamp," indeed.

(Why not "Strawberry Fields?")


Because, at the time, we lived 4 miles from Universal Studios and our DD (then 17) was working at "Shrek's Shack" at Universal. Her very first paying job.

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Originally Posted By: Pepperband
Originally Posted By: Fred_in_VA

"Shrek's Swamp," indeed.

(Why not "Strawberry Fields?")


Because, at the time, we lived 4 miles from Universal Studios and our DD (then 17) was working at "Shrek's Shack" at Universal. Her very first paying job.


Always wondered why you had that as your location!


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It's been nearly three months since I logged on here. I can hardly believe it! So, I guess an update is in store:

First and foremost, I sold my house! After a couple of false starts I finally managed to bring the bank together with a buyer and I'm now out from under it. Already my credit rating is on the rise again (it rose 52 points in just the past couple of months and is only about 50 points lower than it was before).

I found a pretty nice apartment just four miles from my new office. The hardest part over the past two months has been the unpacking -- it's not easy fitting a five bedroom house into a two bedroom apartment! smile

Work has kept me quite busy. I received clearance to work in some secure locations, but not have had to do so, yet. I work my full-time job weekdays and then frequently work weekends at the running store. Not much time for other pursuits, but right now that's just fine with me; I've decided I don't want the drama and agita of the dating scene just yet.

My daughter has had some health issues and in many ways I ache for her, as her life seems to have stalled a bit. It's not in my power to do anything for her, however, so I just have to watch and wait until she decides to make some changes. It's tough seeing someone young struggling so.

The only negative in my life is the back and leg difficulty I've had for the past couple of years. I need to get off my duff and get medical help for it, as I now have medical insurance and my self-treatment has failed dismally.

A quick scan of the posting names shows some of the folks I've known here are still here, and a one or two earlier posters have re-appeared as well. I can't promise I'll be here often, but as time permits I'll drop in and send y'all a virtual wave...


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Originally Posted By: Fred_in_VA
It's been nearly three months since I logged on here. I can hardly believe it! So, I guess an update is in store:

First and foremost, I sold my house! After a couple of false starts I finally managed to bring the bank together with a buyer and I'm now out from under it. Already my credit rating is on the rise again (it rose 52 points in just the past couple of months and is only about 50 points lower than it was before).

I found a pretty nice apartment just four miles from my new office. The hardest part over the past two months has been the unpacking -- it's not easy fitting a five bedroom house into a two bedroom apartment! smile

Work has kept me quite busy. I received clearance to work in some secure locations, but not have had to do so, yet. I work my full-time job weekdays and then frequently work weekends at the running store. Not much time for other pursuits, but right now that's just fine with me; I've decided I don't want the drama and agita of the dating scene just yet.

My daughter has had some health issues and in many ways I ache for her, as her life seems to have stalled a bit. It's not in my power to do anything for her, however, so I just have to watch and wait until she decides to make some changes. It's tough seeing someone young struggling so.

The only negative in my life is the back and leg difficulty I've had for the past couple of years. I need to get off my duff and get medical help for it, as I now have medical insurance and my self-treatment has failed dismally.

A quick scan of the posting names shows some of the folks I've known here are still here, and a one or two earlier posters have re-appeared as well. I can't promise I'll be here often, but as time permits I'll drop in and send y'all a virtual wave...


Thanks for the update Fred. Your story was one of the stories I followed when I found MB.

Lots of new BS's that could use your help if you're up to it? I know that this place has too many triggers for some and so I understand.

I'm so glad you're doing well. smile


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Fred!!! Great to hear from you. I've wondered about you and thought of you often. I'm glad to hear of your progress.
I agree you have a lot to offer here, so I hope you visit from time to time.

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Fred!!! So glad you're back. You were one of the ones I was hoping I'd find when I came back. Congrats on selling the house!


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Grats Fred on all the good things happening for you. Sorry to hear about your DD having health problems.

You continue to be a success story and an inspiration, although like many people who find themselves in such situations that bring us to have to deal with such rough circumstances, you probably would have passed on the opportunity if you saw it up front.

Praying you and yours find yourselves well and prosper. Yes get to the Dr to help you with your legs and back..Keep moving my friend

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Hi Fred, you've been missed! So glad to hear how things are going, that you sold your house, and can soon get the medical treatment you need. I hope your daughter's situation resolves soon as well. Do stop by now and then!


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Great to hear that you're doing so well. smile


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OK, so I promised I'd be here more often, and then went right ahead and faded away again. I'm sorry, folks.

The new job is great but has been a bit demanding. I had set a goal to be useful and productive within six months, and now here it is seven months later and only now am I feeling like I've gotten a grasp on it. But it's a great job, and I'm really enjoying it!

I finally took the leap and made an appointment with a doctor to look at my leg. Truth be told, I've been getting depressed because my life these days has been work (two jobs), meetings and nights at home in front of the TV. Running has been my source of mental and physical health and I miss it (I don't miss The Leopard, though). It somehow feels like my life is stalled. I know, I know, sometimes the most important thing we can do is wait for God. Grrrr...

I note with some amazement that it seems like a lot of past posters are making their way back here. I wonder what's up with that? And why now? Several of these reach back ten years or so. I guess it's the "shared experience" that attracts people back. You know, the "lifeboat survivor" scenario: everyone in the lifeboat has gone through the same experience that bonds them for life. Perhaps MB is like that. I know I sometimes feel that way.

Well, that's enough for me. Time to read on and see what others have been up to. Here's hoping everyone is doing well...


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