Get this done, sir.

Have you told your wife the whole truth? Are there any bombshells remaining?

You might consider filling out Dr. Harley's Personal History Questionnaire for AlmostInvictus:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4503_phq.html

We're on it, Marcos.

No more bombs. I'm writing a detailed account of EVERYTHING right now.

We've done the personal history, but now I feel I should do it again...

Tell it all, please, so you don't have to keep doing it over and over again.

Take that polygraph.

Schlag, another wayward husband on this site:

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=userposts&id=62882

Schlag took a polygraph and failed. Argued and argued and argued to try to hold onto his version of events, in an attempt to control what his wife believed about his affair.

Notice his subject line for his thread: "The crisis time." When he wrote that title, his mindset was "This is a time period of crisis that we have to get through." His focus, like many waywards, was on "getting through" or "getting past," which means "I can't wait till my wife gets over this and we get back to normal times." The truth is, the previous "normal" led to hell and horror for the betrayed spouse, and typically wasn't wonderful for the wayward spouse either, so getting back to "normal" is not near as good an idea as "Learning the right thing to do and developing the habit of doing it FROM NOW ON, TILL DEATH DO WE PART."

Like AI just said to me, this is the shot of my life. I get to be the man I want to be.

I've also just agreed to a poly at any time, even after the big one, whenever she feels it necessary. For life.

You've said a lot of things TRT in the past month, much of which was either self-serving or fiction. Your word will only mean anything when you have backed it up by completed actions.

Book the poly today.

Good.

When is the big one?

Ask AI.

Also, I just set out, in writing, that I fully admit to sanitizing 3 of my email accounts roughly 30 minutes before I have her the passwords.

What the hell else do I have to lose? Go big or go home.

Don't dump it all on your wife.

Admitting it: good.

Doing it: you've got to admit this is infuriating, right?

Yes. It IS infuriating.

I booked the poly for 9am, this Thursday morning.
I will pay in cash.
$500

Now I have to go finish this epic tome and find some stuff to sell. Am waiting to find out if I'm approved for a loan, in my name.

Have all your affairs been exposed to the BHs? Even the EA that was actually a PA with AI's friend?

No.

Also, I was refused the loan. I'm gathering my stuff to sell.

Was this OW married?

Her BH needs to know.

You listened to that radio clip of what Dr. Harley said a WH needs to do to earn his BW back, correct? Dr. H said the WH should go tell everyone himself about his affairs? Remember you said it was a large order?

Actions speak volumes.

So???

I don't think I did listen to the clip, but I'll track the people down.

Here you go.

Sold my Wacom tablet, Time Capsule, and Guitar. $200.
The laptop goes tomorrow, and will hopefully fill out the rest.
This is worth it.

Ah yes. I did listen to that, Brain. Thank you. I even took notes. I'll listen again tonight.

Glad to hear it.