How do you know OM filed a report?

Police can't arrest you for telling the truth.

Police called me to tell me they are filing a report.

POSOM called and harassed me 2 months ago and I called and filed a report on him. He in turn called and reported me; saying I was the one calling him (completely false). The officer said not to contact him again, to which I replied I never have and I assume everything was dropped.

I'm not worried about being arrested for this crap, just wondering if there's experience with what to expect.

I'm not a legal expert but I'd be curious to know what he's claiming? How have you harassed him? By telling the truth?

The good news here is that you are getting more and more confirmation that your exposure hit the target. He is twisting in the wind with rage and embarrassment. EXCELLENT.

Hold steady. I don't see his legal action going anywhere. Telling the truth is not a crime.

Also, it's interesting that some of the people who've contacted you from his side are implying that he will eventually go back to his wife. His wife must be in her own fog and somehow thinking that if she were a better wife and all that blah, blah, blah he wouldn't have strayed. She is drinking his wayward koolaid, which is sad but not your problem.

Now people know what's happening with them and that he is the one destroying everything. His BW is probably getting more support and strength because of your exposure and he's going to have to deal with the public pressure to return to her (since he seems to have implied that to anyone who had an inkling of what's going on here).

You're doing great work!!

Hang in there Melo! Take care of yourself.

In the meantime, make sure you have all your important papers locked up: passports, kids' birth certificates, social security cards, etc.

Also, what are you doing to protect yourself financially? Joint credit cards? Joint bank accounts? You can't be the one funding this affair.

Be smart. Be tactical. Don't act on emotion. You do not let your emotions get the best of you.

Calm, cool, and collected. Your mission is to destroy this affair while protecting yourself and your kids.

Melo12,

The officer said not to contact him again

Just picket his funeral parlor with a god hates adulterers sign, lol, but don't talk to him.

Given the analogy to Westboro you might get the local TV station to show up.

God Bless
Gamma

No, he is a compulsive liar and is telling people this to throw them off the scent. He is not going back to his wife and she told me she wouldn't take him back after this. However, she's not talking to me after my exposure so I can't help her.

Thanks for the support, it means a lot and has kept me motivated and positive.

Spoke with my attorney and he laughed it off. He said worst case is a misdemenor but doubts it will go anywhere, so I will hang strong.

So get this, one of his "friends" and I have been sharing emails this week. She said the POSOM tried to get her to run off together a few years ago. She wanted nothing to do with him and wishes she would have exposed him then. What a piece of work. My WW will eventually have this same thing happen to her by this serial cheater. Yet another good reason I'm so glad I exposed this piece of trash.

Is there something wrong with what you told everyone??

Have you been told exactly what law was broken? A misdemeanor for what?

Thank you, doing my best to be strong. It consumes me but trying to focus on work as best I can, which is probably the only area I am struggling. Eating, sleeping, and exercising so I'm good. Can always find another job. Emotions are in check as I am not speaking to her at all; just arrange kids via email. That is what I need right now as I can't even look at her.

Financials: I made stupid decisions early on (before I landed here) but quickly corrected and cut off the bank, credit cards, etc. so she's been on her own - or on his dime.

I think I have everything under control so moving my focus on the kids; they now need 100% of my focus.

My attorney hasn't heard back yet. It is not for exposure but the officer who called me mentioned it, so POSOM obviously was bothered by it. I believe harassment since I wasn't supposed to contact POSOM. He tried to file a report against me a few months ago for "calling him" (which I never did). The officer gave me a warning and said don't call him again. I sent POSOM an email last week; no threats, just that they both discust me. He needed to hear it from me.

No worries...you are doing GREAT!!!

Exposure is simply telling the truth -- if the affair partners are so proud of their relationship, they would've announced it to the world -- and that truth has killed this affair.

Take care of those kids...and YOU!

Can you afford a billboard? Now would be a really good time to ramp things up.

If you have a court order in place not to do something, you need to adhere to it. Willfully violating a court order can put you in contempt of court, and in most states that is a felony. It usually doesn't get there in this scenario, but depending on your Judge, you should make sure you abide by the court order. Your attorney should be able to guide you in this matter.

Focusing on your kids is a GREAT decision.

No, nothing like that is in place. The officer said he was going to be moving ahead with filing charges yesterday. My attorney put a call into him so we will see. I'm not worried about it; initially thought it had something to do with exposing but that's not the case.

I will keep posting for updates and advice. Found out late last night that my WW is going back to work for him again.

An update that my attorney spoke with the officer and no charges will be filed; however I cannot contact POSOM (which I have no intentions to). He told the officer he is suing me civilly for slander and libel which I'm sure is just BS and I'm not at all concerned.

I am not speaking to WW at all right now and trying to move on with life. Still trying to let go and begin to heal which is very hard; would be easier if I knew they were feeling the affects of this, but need to stop letting that consume me.

Thank you all for the support and advice and I will keep posting if there are relevant updates. Just not sure there is much else I can or need to do; it is exposed so the cards can fall where they may.

Ha, ha...would love to see POSOM try that case....don't worry about him any longer.

Keep updating...exposure did the necessary damage -- if it's not over already, this thing will die soon...

God Bless.

LMAO! Nor should you be, and if you're thinking your actions haven't been effective, then just look at the lunatic backlash that is occurring. And with no foundation of truth or merit whatsoever.

Melo, I'm truly sorry you're having to deal with all this, and I do feel for you. Been there, done that. Hang in there pal. You are doing great.

Thanks guys, your words have kept me motivatated, strong, and I will keep posting. I'm very apprecretative for what you have helped me with and gotten me through the most difficult thing I have ever experienced.

I will get through this and so thankful for your support.