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Submarine commander sunk after allegedly faking death to end affair.
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Brainy, you do know that posting something like the above story is like waving a redflag in front of my sarcasm/irony bull.

So many options here:

Do I go with the obvious "raising the periscope"?
Do I stay with the thought of "firing his torpedoes"?
Can I approach the puns associated with "seamen"?
Touching on "blowing all ballast" is probably doomed to be "zapped".

Why do you torture me so?

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Brainy, you do know that posting something like the above story is like waving a redflag in front of my sarcasm/irony bull.

So many options here:

Do I go with the obvious "raising the periscope"?
Do I stay with the thought of "firing his torpedoes"?
Can I approach the puns associated with "seamen"?
Touching on "blowing all ballast" is probably doomed to be "zapped".
Why do you torture me so?
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Good thing I was not drinking coffee when I read this. It would have come out my nose.

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Brainy, you do know that posting something like the above story is like waving a redflag in front of my sarcasm/irony bull.

So many options here:

Do I go with the obvious "raising the periscope"?
Do I stay with the thought of "firing his torpedoes"?
Can I approach the puns associated with "seamen"?
Touching on "blowing all ballast" is probably doomed to be "zapped".

Why do you torture me so?

Just for that I'll give you the clap!

clap clap


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On July 9, she drove to Ward's house in Burke, Va., to pay her respects, only to find out from the home's new owner that Ward had just relocated for his new job.

Oh, to have been a fly on the wall to see this poor 23-year-old's expression !!!

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Ward has since been reassigned to administrative duties because of the incident.

Oh, to have been a fly on the wall to see this 43-year-old-navy-man's expression when this news was delivered.

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When Ward took command of the ship, he said that it was the culmination of a lifelong dream.

oopsie! Dream bubble popped by that nasty reality needle.

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After learning that Ward was still alive, the woman said she was hospitalized and discovered she was pregnant by Ward before losing the baby.

This part is not funny. A LIFE was lost because of this jerk.




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After learning that Ward was still alive, the woman said she was hospitalized and discovered she was pregnant by Ward before losing the baby.

Pep, when did you start being so trusting? Stop thinking POSWH, and frame this in terms of POSOW!

23y/o "Penelope Purity" was shocked - SHOCKED! - to discover the 43y/o man she was boinking was married!

And she says after the event, "And oh, yeah, he got me knocked up, but uhhhh - that's it! - I lost the baby! (Now where did I put that lawyer's phone number? And the one from that scandal-rag?)"

Whatever innocence I had died with Elizabeth Edwards!

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I'm a mother to a 23 year old who lives with me. She still has a lot to learn. But at least I am here to hammer some sense into her.

Also, I was once a 23 year old myownself.

I guess I have compassion, not innocence. More now than in times past. It's my AGE.


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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
23y/o "Penelope Purity" was shocked - SHOCKED! - to discover the 43y/o man she was boinking was married!

She already knew he was married. He told her he was separated. Separated means still married, but unfortunately many people think separated means licensed to play around. She probably did not even think of herself as an OW.

Like her and Pep, I was 23 once. I did some stupid things when I was 23 that I'm not proud of, but I did not allow them to define me and grew past them. I hope the OW in this story is also able to learn and grow from her experience.


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I'm sure you are at least familiar with the Prayer of Saint Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love.
Where there is injury, pardon.
Where there is doubt, faith.
Where there is despair, hope.
Where there is darkness, light.
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.
Amen.


When I am feeling piqued at human nature .... I read this prayer.

I'm just telling you how I get through some of the less enjoyable parts of life/people/events.

It works for me (usually).

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In this whole story, we don't hear anything from or about the BW.


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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
In this whole story, we don't hear anything from or about the BW.

Oh, I am certain this is not the whole story. But the whole article.

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[Linked Image from services.bostonglobe.com] Pep, you are a treasure! Seriously.
I'm glad you have a mantra that
serves to comfort you.

In times of stress and torment I recall the

"Prayer of St. Guido"
"When a door is closed before you.....
kick it down and take out the scuzzball
who slammed it in your face! Amen!"


I also get through the rough times well.
The tormentors may not.

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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
In this whole story, we don't hear anything from or about the BW.

Oh, I am certain this is not the whole story. But the whole article.
True dat.


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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Brainy, you do know that posting something like the above story is like waving a redflag in front of my sarcasm/irony bull.

So many options here:

Do I go with the obvious "raising the periscope"?
Do I stay with the thought of "firing his torpedoes"?
Can I approach the puns associated with "seamen"?
Touching on "blowing all ballast" is probably doomed to be "zapped".

Why do you torture me so?


You gotta watch those subs... 200 sailors go down... 100 couples come up!

skeptical


Bad of me... my brother is a career sailor...


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Also, I was once a 23 year old myownself.

I guess I have compassion, not innocence. More now than in times past. It's my AGE.
Oh, dear. The stories I could tell from when I was an idiot 23-year-old living on her own in the Big City. blush


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Also, I was once a 23 year old my ownself...The stories I could tell from when I was an idiot 23-year-old living on her own

Wow! I guess that's what I'm missing. At 23 I was through my Engineering degree, engaged to Bride, and putting myself through an MBA program by working at a fast-food joint and taking 60 graduate credits in one calendar year. smile

But then again, I never met a hunky female 43y/o naval officer!

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23?

Let's see... married... 2 kids... night manager at the grocery store.

Got married the day after my 21st.


My 20's were "boring" by the standards of some. I am (mostly) satisfied with the results.


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told the woman he was separated and worked in special ops


He told her he was "special ops" to prevent her from asking any questions or digging around into his past. It allowed him to carry on what was mostly an internet affair without arising much suspicion. Everything was "classified". Where he was, what he was doing, why he couldn't talk for weeks at a time, why he could talk/chat/regularly email for weeks at a time, etc. I'm surprised he used his real name at all and she was able to track him to his former home in Virginia.

At 23 I think it took guts to expose this Capt. of a Nuclear Submarine to his superiors. He targeted, lied to and preyed on this young woman (might be more to this story...as we don't all that much about her and can't presume her to be some typical fully aware temptress spider other woman). It is likely she was just being vengeful, but it was the right thing to do nonetheless. Now the Capt.'s wife and the Navy know what they are dealing with.


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