Since early August I've been less in contact. And I had a date that I canceled because I am just not ready. He noticed. He kept in touch and acted "interested" in being in touch with me. Then I had my mini breakdown where I was crying and feeling sorry for myself. Of course he had an about face. He left me a message about how he's so sorry he's the cause of my pain and said a lot of nice things that kind of gave me false hope again and at the end said "I guess I am choosing to stay in this now" he says he didn't mean that how it sounded but he didn't know what he meant to say. Now we were talking about our past and he's got such a chip on his shoulder he says he always has now so I know if he had been pulling away from her he isn't anymore. Now what do I do? I don't want to go totally dark but I am not sure what to respond to and what not to or how to proceed without making him totally go. I know this is a fog and a mistake but he doesn't and I don't want to give up yet but I am losing hope.

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