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She's gone. That's all I can say right now.
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Hugs.
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Just got a scathing email from DD calling my actions unforgiveable, that I drove her to the MM, not to contact her again, accusing my of not caring because I don't call her, etc.
Expected the venom. Deep in the fog. I believe this is typical behaviour. Am I correct?
Should I respond?
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Just got a scathing email from DD calling my actions unforgiveable, that I drove her to the MM, not to contact her again, accusing my of not caring because I don't call her, etc.
Expected the venom. Deep in the fog. I believe this is typical behaviour. Am I correct?
Should I respond?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Expected the venom. Deep in the fog. I believe this is typical behaviour. Am I correct? Yep. You hit a nerve. Nicely done.  I wouldn't. She won't be receptive to anything you have to say right now. Haven't you aleady said everything you could to convince her of her poor choice?
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that I drove her to the MM, Teen-age tantrum translation: You Made Me Do It!!!! not to contact her again, accusing my of not caring because I don't call her, etc. Translation: I don't ever want you to contact me because you don't contact me...
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Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Just got a message from BW. She has changed her mind about meeting. She's not happy about my exposure of the affair. Believes it's a private matter.
I let her know that if I can ever be of help to her to let me know. Told her again about MB for support if she needs it.
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I sent a response to DD:
"Yours is the typical response of a mistress to the exposure of her affair. You haven't said anything that hasn't been said by others before you and won't be the last.
You'll understand when you're a parent."
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I sent a response to DD:
"Yours is the typical response of a mistress to the exposure of her affair. You haven't said anything that hasn't been said by others before you and won't be the last.
You'll understand when you're a parent."  nice. Too bad the BW is burying her head, but at least you contacted her. How are you holding up?
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Ten to one that DD writes you more scathing venom about using the 'mistress' tag. They're twoo wuvs! How dare you! 
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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[/quote]How are you holding up?[/quote]
it' been really rough. yesterday I just crawled out of bed for the firrst time in a week, ate a little better, exercised, puttered. going through the motions. therapy I've been waiting 2 years for confirmed my start in a couple weeks. the program to reunify my youngest children (12 & 14) and me called confirmed process has started at least for me. been kept from all contact with them for 2.5 years.
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They're twoo wuvs! How dare you! What do you mean?
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They're twoo wuvs! How dare you! What do you mean? Sarcasm aimed at the AP's. 
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I'm sorry, I should've added the /sarcasm tag. Try not to feel too bad--as others have said, this is typical for the OW in an exposure situation. She is saying nothing to you that hasn't been said before. Do exercise. Pick up a new hobby! Do things for you!
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Believes it's a private matter. How dare you tell people I'm in an adulterous relationship, mother!!! You're assassinating my character. What are you going to do next, put an ad in the local paper? 
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Don't let your eyes refuse to see. Don't let your ears refuse to hear. Or you ain't never gonna shake this sense of sadness. --Ray Lamontagne
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No, the BW was saying that it was a private matter, not W4MG's DD.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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DD also told me that she lied to me about her affair because it was none of my business to know.
It's my business when her behaviour affects our relationship.
New hobby: boxing training, not in the ring
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Boxing training sounds like a great idea.
When her cavorting with a married man causes your relationship to start crumbling, yes, it IS your business, I agree.
She knew you would disapprove.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I also box. I don't plan on going into the ring, but it is AMAZING for a total body workout. Be forewarned, it builds MUSCLE. You did the right thing and one day, when your WD gets her head together, she will see it.
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MM called me tonight wanting to talk. I said no and hung up. There's nothing he could say that I would believe after all the lies he's told.
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