Well if she doesn't meet the definition of missing person I don't know who does.

Any extra eyes you can get on her the better.
Plus it helps your custody case to have this all documented

Here is a link to Illinois missing persons law.





File a report tomorrow. Then if they pull her over they will check her out

Appreciate the help, I'll wait till the 15th if she doesn't show up in court I'll file a missing persons report. Praying about this. I really want her at that court date so I can get my DS back. WW are the worst, keeping our son from me like I done something wrong and running to hotels with POSOM that destroy there own family and many others with their selfish acts of adultery!

I would call and find out if OM is at work.
They may be fleeing the country together. Is she living with him?

You previously asked your Sergeant to call and find the kids.
Have you updated him on this?

Yes I did, talk with the command in puerto Rico. Have an old friend there apparently she there. She went to the command there to transfer. Going to stay the course and wait till court date if she doesn't show I'm heading to puerto rico to settle this. I cannot allow her to hurt me, our kids, families, and herself anymore.

DSC, You have had that court order in your hand for a week now and still haven't gone and gotten your child. What are you waiting for????


Then why are you?? You are abandoning your children by doing nothing.

Do your DS and SS know about their mom's affair? It's by her actions if she won't allow your SS to go home. I think you need to go get your DS. The judge will see it as you not doing anything to get him.

Well I say listen to the attorney.
If he recommended waiting till court date then wait.
The thing is, you want the system to fight her. She can't fight the system and win.
Since she reported to command in PR the military should be able to serve her. Call the MP and ask if they can serve her while she is on duty.

Quick note, my lawyer told me to go get my DS.

I'm going to follow the lawyer's advice the judge knows she fled with the kids and advise me to seek help from an attorney. Like I stated previously if she isn't at the court date I'm taking leave and getting my kids back! POSOM is at work. IG submitted my complaint to both of their commands. I call CPS everyday about this and document in my journal. I wish I could talk to my kids but the SIL/MIL don't answer their phones. Now I wait and document everything till court

Can you get both kids w/o getting into legal trouble (for SS)?

DSC, I am not saying to not follow your lawer's advice but sometimes you need to ask questions of them to make sure it is in your best interest. Remember they work for you.

He is a bit of my story so take it for what it is worth.

October 1st 2011 my WW stole my DS and SS. I gave her a week to snap out of the craziness. She did not. She concealed her where abouts and had no communication with the children. I file for D, got an emergency injunction against her for her to return my DS. A week later the paper work from the courts finally showed up, for some reason they drug there feet for an extra 2 days.

I overnighted the summons to the sherrifs office to have her served at 4 different locations. All were returned stating "she does not live here".

My L then gave 2 options, hire a PI and wait or find her myself and get my son back. I choose not to wait, I showed the judge that I was concerned about the well being and where abouts of DS.

When all was said and done and I had DS home, WW tried to have the injuction dismissed but because of all that I went thru trying to find her the judge denied her request.

My WW should have gone to jail but I intervined for SS sake.

Newpath, thanks for sharing ur story. That is what this site is all about. Helping those who have begun the path that we have already traveled.

DSC, I hope everything works out the way you want it to on the 15th. Personally, my a55 would have been in Puerto Rico a week ago. But I'm a mama bear and no one gets between me and my kids!

Having a Marshal knock on sil door is going to give sil and mil the respect they deserve.


DSC, have you locked your childs passport?
If not please do so ASAP.
Here is the link to the State Department to lock a passport for a minor:

http://travel.state.gov/abduction/prevention/passportissuance/passportissuance_554.html

You do not want to take any chance of her fleeing PR

Done thanks HDW. I have access to her email and she doesnt know it. WW didn't change her password lol. So I'll be snooping and keeping an eye out on stuff. I got a week or so till court. Everytime I feel like I miss her I'll just hit the gym. Reading how to survive an affair all over again as well. Wish me luck on the 15th! I hope she doesnt show. I'm sure she will try to talk to me on that date I'll listen but offer no response! Stoic is the way to be. Is it true when WW hit the low point they snap out of the fog? Any FWW can testify to this of women in general?

I don't know how you could get over what she has done to you.
Sure, people will respond @you don't get over or forgive, instead she gives you just compensation"

But what is the just compensation?
And what would the extroadinary precautions be? She kidnapped the kids and moved them out of the states and her family is helping her do this. This isn't like a workplace affair where the precaution is to stop having sex with Bob and quit the job. Her precautions would be.... GPS on car, mil banned for life, kids tattooed "mom may kidnap me call police if I'm in PR".
What would family reunions be like?

I can tell you that I have read enough threads to know that some ww never come out of the fog. I suppose it can be compared to an alcoholic. Some hit rock bottom and get help while others stay at Rock bottom. The inner city parks are full of them.

I do believe she can be forgiven. I understand just compensation concept I really think she realized she made a mistake. As for her taking off with the kids to another country I don't see that happening and if it does I made precautions via the military to ensure I know where she is at all times. However, I shouldn't be talking about this at this time gets me emotional when I need to be stoic calm and methodical for our kids sakes. I will update you guys on the 15th. Till then I'll keep improving myself personally and hope for the best bit prepare for the worst! God bless

When you login into her email account use a proxy server so it can't be traced back to you. Or do It from a coffee shop etc