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I'm Divorced.....
Came home and my decree absolute was waiting for me with my letters.
Financial stuff is still unresolved, but legally I'm a free woman. Have been since September 14!
Dr Harley said Plan B would make a divorce hurt less. At a time when I could hardly breathe with the pain, I could only hope he was right.
Today I'm jubilant. I'm free! I'm happy for you. Happy you're jubilant. Happy you're free.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Today I'm jubilant. I'm free!  Good for you indie!
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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I'd had the WORST day too.
I am staying with a friend this weekend but also working. She lives nearer my office than I do. I'm selling my rings to pay for India tomorrow afternoon.
I have to clear my kitchen cupboards as my Dad is taking them down Sunday so they can fit a new boiler on Tuesday. Pack a bag for the weekend, get my jewels together and my visa stuff which they sent back and I have to reappy tomorrow.
Then after nowhere near enough sleep Ill get up at the crack of dawn and head off to do early morning calls to the emergency services on my newspatch. Hopefully there won't be too much going on but then again, we need a front page this weekend. After doing three days work in one morning (after staying late tonight) I'll meet my friend to go shopping, or rather go selling.
THEN I can celebrate. When I texted her about the divorce she replied "mucho vino tomorrow"
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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My sisters and GF took me out to "Celebrate New Beginnings" too You sound well. Hugs, indie!
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Awesome and congrats!! Freedom is a beautiful thing. Can't wait to here about your India trip!
Me, BS: 35
WxH: 36 "HAM" Hearts a mess
6yo DS (with WxH), 9 and 12yo DDs from first marriage
Discovered DH's affair in June, 2011
"I'm not having an affair, you're crazy." major gaslighting
Served with divorce papers on 2/3/12
Divorce final 7/29/2013
Living day by day, counting my blessings, loving my children
Personal Recovery well underway!
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Today I'm jubilant. I'm free! And, you are indeed a Marriage Builder's success story !!!!!!!! 
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Indie,
You rock.
Married/Separated/Divorced
none of those things define you and you write really great posts for us on MB
I wish you the very best in your continued journey in life.
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Grats Indie, your a champ
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Holy cow! Well done, indiegirl, Im glad youre free and lighthearted.
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WTG, you truly have been an inspiration to many, especially other Plan Bers. Thank You. I am excited for you.
"Get busy living, or get busy dying"...... The Shawshank Redemption.
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Anyone can be knocked down...but how you pick yourself back up is a measure of your strength and character.
You are a true success story Indie... and the "classy" one.
ME: BW
HIM: FWH
Married 18 yrs
DDay 09/2008 and 12/2008
Recovered
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Well done to you Indie, your journey is an inspiration to others. And I am glad you feel liberated.
No longer just surviving, but thriving.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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I cant even imagine getting half this far without everyone's support.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I like the new siggy.
A new chapter. One where SL no longer gets to play a lead role.
And its up to you who you cast as the new lead, if and when you want to.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Today I'm jubilant. I'm free! And, you are indeed a Marriage Builder's success story !!!!!!!! x2
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Happy, happy, joy, joy! I'm still pure sunshine today. I had thought I was ready to really move on, now I KNOW. If the divorce hits him hard and he wants back in, it'll make no difference to me. It'll be too LITTLE too LATE. A friend of mine told me she thought my stance of not dating before divorce had been admirable. I know people had been worried about me, and wanted me to feel better faster, but they all see the wisdom of it now. Now they can see how happy I am
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Congratulations Indie on your divorce. Done with that chapter, and now you are staring at the blank page before you. Today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten.... (come on had to know that's where I got my name...fitting for all of us MBers wouldn't you say? but particularly you, in this moment).
I admire you so much for taking the admirable high road during this last length of your marital journey. Even into a dark separation you upheld your marital vows. You should be very very proud of yourself for the strength of character you have portrayed through all of this! You really are an inspiration to many.
Softlad is a dxxm fool. Just sayin.
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Softlad is a dxxm fool. Just sayin. Couldn't help it this made me laugh.. Yeah Indie thats the word to describe the softheaded guy, a fool. No doubt it will sink in someday, but now onto your life, with all its promise. Grats you are a star
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Yeah, I like your sayin Unwritten - nearly made it part of my sig!!!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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