Yes you right about her seeing me as attacking his son. She says so many stupid things right now.

Oh yeah. They say some really stupid things. Try to take it with a grain of salt. There is NO reasoning with them at this point. Listen to the posters here. They haven't steered me wrong yet.

Hang in there.

To me it does not sound like this affair has ended. My guess is that now that his wife knows they are just taking it further underground.

I would suggest you follow through with a mass exposure, do not let it end with OM's BW. She was the best target, but there are many more that can make life uncomfortable for the affairees and make secrets more difficult. I would also suggest you continue with any monitoring/snooping to ensure that the A really is over.

Have you seen this?
Craziest Things to come out of a Wayward's Piehole

For now i think it is really over.I still have access to all her accounts. So i am still keeping track of stuff. They only have had contact thru work and he cant drive so i think i am safe for now. So since he quit there is no contact. I know i don't know all the details of the affair. What i find funny is that she said they only had contact from a work number and i confirmed that was the number that he called from. Since the affair ended there are a lot of cell phone numbers that don't show up now. He does not have a cell phone. So i think he was using a friends phone to call and text her. But as i said nothing since the affair ended. I recognize all the numbers now. I'm trying to be there for her but right now all she is doing is pushing me away. She is really mad that I ended the affair. She says i should have let her figure it all out. But i know i did the right thing.
And if its over between us I'm ready to move on.

How do you know this? Have you checked your WW's possessions to find a Pay As You Go phone that OM may have purchased for her? Oh yeah. She was doing a good job of "figuring it all out."

Oh, goody-goody! Edgarf did a partial exposure, and WW is part of the 0.0001% of waywards who will end the affair and not extend it superstitiously. (Cue choir of angels!)

It doesn't work that way, dude, and you better start thinking rationally, and urgently, and not be looking at a charging rhinoceros, and seeing a prancing unicorn!

MB asked you some serious questions back on 26 September. You should answer them. She laid out some necessary accommodations WW is going to have to make to facilitate the recovery process (should that be your choice). Note: These actions are a prix fixe order, not items in a buffet line to be picked and declined.

And your Wife had no business sticking her Vagina into their marriage. I think the nose is a distant second to what she did.

Good one.

Ed-

You've been riding this wave for 3 weeks now and no clear plan is being followed. The pan recommended here is proven to work but must be followed letter for letter. The book Surviving an Affair is the manifesto to saving your marriage. Get it today.

In brief,

Expose the affair to friends family and her boyfriends friends and family. And your kids.

Lay out the steps SHE must take to gain your forgiveness

You begin a vigilant watch of her actions and she is to agree to compete and utter transparency of her daily routine

You step up in areas you clearly dropped the ball in whatever they may be

And, you start spending a ton of time together talking, sf-ing, canoodling, meeting her needs, getting yours met, and recreational stuff you both agree to.


This is the recipe. It's available in the SAA book with full detailed explanations.

She is in a temporary deranged state. Nothing a mass exposure can't fix. Lets do it.