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Re: New Here... Any Advice Appreciated
Trix #2676807 10/24/12 09:57 AM
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My husband did the same thing and I was not strong enough, he still worked with OW, I went on for a year like this. He had me, helped him parent, and he was still going on trips with OW. He had the life. He told me he broke up with OW. ALL LIES. Wanted to take it slow, means I do not want to commit to you and I want to see if there is something better like OW.

Just be done and go into Plan B. do not be an option fr him anymore. I made so many mistakes and getting divorced.

Do not accept his crumbs.

Me BW 43 / WH 44
2 DS 7 and 4
D day 8-2010
Asked him to leave 9-10
Exposed 11-10
FR 1-2011
Back with OW / In Plan B 2-11
False Recovery Back in Plan B 7-12
Divorced
Better Life in Progress!
Re: New Here... Any Advice Appreciated
mason #2676814 10/24/12 10:50 AM
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I said I will not be a part of his life. I repeated it several times.
Yep - and yet you ARE being a part of his life.
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Yes I do see his words are contradictory
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And do you see that YOUR words are as well??


You say you won't be a part of his life, and then go right on having conversations with him and wondering where this is all going.

Get into Plan B. As soon as he sees you TRULY moving your life away from him, he will get the message. You will lose your sanity if you keep "hoping" that he means it "this" time.

Your first question ANY time he reaches out to you should be "have you ended contact with OW for life?" Then he will have to follow some extraordinary precautions to ensure that you have proof and confidence that they are no longer in touch.
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