I trying had a minor slip up. IM emailed WW asking her to reconcile with me. IM showed me the email replies for one of them and he got me weak cause she seems to be resentful of me and herself. Didn't read the other two. Playing with DS now! Plan B is tough especially when you have a IM whose heart is in the right place but doesn't follow the rules. Schooled IM and making sure there aren't any more lapses in judgement. Wish my WW cared about our family like I do, time will tell!

If you have further problems I am willing to be an IM for you. Hopefully you can get this person to understand to ONLY FILTER Spam.

Post divorce I went to "limited contact" with my wife because I didn't want to have to deal with the hassle of educating someone.

Stick to the court order.
This is very similar to my case.
I was given an emergency order that gave me full custody. Unfortunately I couldn't get my wife out of the house at that time but you have !
That is great.
I assume you have child care working and you are working full time?

Have you sent your IM this?

IM Training School

AD military DS starts per school soon. I still have hope for marriage but I don't let my feelings sway my better judgement. Thanks to NG lol

here is so much wonderful information on your website. It is very encouraging. From all that I have read, it appears that basically almost all marriages are salvageable. I personally need help on investigation to find out truth. Throughout the 6 years of my marriage, there has been many negative things that have affected the love bank which include: pornography, alcohol, drugs, smoking, cheating, incidents of domestic violence toward our children ages 3 and 1, threats of domestic violence toward me, verbal and emotional abuse, and what goes along with the territory: the lying and hiding.

What has been attempted over the years for marriage rebuilding has been turning to ecclesiastical leaders within our church, seeking professional marriage counseling, doing the 12 step program. Unfortunately, as is testified from your website, these things have to be followed through with exactness. My husband never took it fully to heart and that is why we are on the verge of divorce now.

My husband left me and the kids 3 weeks ago. He informed me two weeks ago that he had been sexually abused as a child: new information to me. In hearing that, my 3 year old's odd behavior now made sense. I spoke to my sister n law who works with child protective services. She said all of my observations are indicators of her being violated. My daughter this past week actually verbalized indicators that she was violated by her father. I have reported him to srs and my daughter will be evaluated at the sunflower house by a child forensic pyschologist.

I found some articles on abuse and how a victim and abuser can recover and heal. I shared it with my husband and he is meeting with a clergy and professional counselor this week.

Do you feel that my marriage is recoverable or too much damage and time to move

My friend used a false email and sent her an email asking her to reconcile. I had nothing to do with this. This was her reply.


Stranger,

Well I do not know what BS told you about me but at this point I do not care. None of that applies to me because I did not leave/trade him for anybody. I left him because he simply did not satisfy me anymore in any way, because next to him I felt misserable. I have not cheated and never will, in fact I feel that I have given up pursuing what people call love or their significant other. I am misserable now because I do not have my son and all because BS is so obssesed with me that he is using our son as a manipulation tool to get me to go back with him and at this point, unfortunately there is nothing I can do but pray and that is what I have been doing the most

Now I will appreciate you mind your own business and learn about being fair. Before you judge a situation you MUST hear both sides of the story.

The email my friend sent asked her to post on the site and call to the radio show.

I don't think it was a good idea to share this website with her.
I encourage you to listen to the advice of Northwood, MaritalBliss and Neverguessed. Their guidance got me through my situation.

Tell your friend to stop 'helping'. She'll suspect it's you (is it?) and will resent the 'education'.

Nah it's not me and I told him to stop. Just waiting it out and focusing on myself and my son. Praying that this ends in R. WISH I COULD SPEED UP TIME LOL.

Any update on the charges that Children Svcs were going to file against your wife?

TD, you need to change IMs immediately. I know this guy means well, but he is hurting you tremendously sending her stuff like this. Him telling her to post here is a massive no-no for an IM. Hell, him telling her anything beyond what she needs to know is unacceptable. All he is supposed to be is a conduit for pertinent information, not a champion for winning her back for you.

You are seriously on the verge of losing this place as an info resource and support group.

Done and done. Might take you up on that offer VVVVVV. CPS filed reckless behavior and neglect against her. I'm getting the full report soon have Court next week again. I doubt she is on this site at all. Besides she wouldn't know which is my thread. Plan B next step is teaching my son how to read and working on my physical strength with some weights and focusing on my career. Quick question though when I'm in court waiting again and she tries talking to me what should I do ignore her? What can I say?

Oh I'm going to start a new thread

Or if the mods can rename this one to staying calm through mayhem

When in court waiting room I bring a newspaper so I don't have to look at her.
My wife did come up and start talking to me.
I just looked at her, and did not argue and kept composed.

I was in plan A until divorce, then went immediately into a watered down version of plan b.
It's impossible to have no contact in the courtroom or in court ordered mediation.

Some court room have private consult rooms that you can hang out in until the hearing. Those are nice.

I have a feeling that you see her through rose colored glasses.
I often look at my ex wife through those glasses too.
But there must be trust. I know that the vets here say, "well you should never trust anyone anyway. "
To which I would ask, "Can I trust her not to kidnap my kid and take him to puerto Rico while I'm at the grocery store buying milk and eggs?"

In my case, Dr Harley told me to plan A indefinitely if there was any shared parenting and to plan B if I had sole custody.
You may want to email him for his advice.
The child svc charge will help you a lot. At this point you would have to do something really stupid to lose full custody going forward

Where are you at in the divorce process?

I will be a caller tomorrow for the show so ill wait for his advice. I'm impatient by nature and I hate playing this waiting game. It's worse when I'm at work because my mind wanders but when I'm home despite the triggers and things that remind me of her I do better becaus of DS.