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Gave my wife the letter this morning. She wanted to know what this was supposed to prove. I told her nothing, it was just me trying to make amends for my actions. She wouldnt read it while i was there so i dont know what shes going to do with it.
The promises i made were were how i was changing and would never hurt her again. She said she has heard it all before. I said this time is different and she said so was the last time. I believe in what I told her but shes right she has heard all of this before. I had a chance to prove it with my actions and handed her words. Tell her how this time is different with your actions. Tell her you're in anger management to deal with your AOs. Tell her you are educating yourself in how to treat her the way she should be treated with MB concepts.You could email her Dr. H's basic concepts and let her read them. A good way to introduce her to MB and show her what material your educating yourself. You must give her time. Then show her all this with your Actions.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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She just realized that I had her wedding rings. I wanted to get them resized in case she ever wanted to wear them again. She took it as me being controlling and trying to manipulate her. She was irate. I didn't think of it that way.
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Just don't engage in arguments.
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I didn't. I apologized and told her I was sorry she felt that way.
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I just don't feel like I can do anything right. She even bitched because I was on meds. Yelled about my counselor. I didn't argue. All I want in this world is to go home and be with my family. The sleeping pills don't work, the depression is horrible and all I seem to accomplish is pissing her off.
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If you need help with depression get it.
You can't plan a if you are clinically depressed.
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I've got it. It just don't seem to help
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Talked to her this morning for a bit. I'm taking the kids to my family's for 5 days for the holidays. Wished her a happy holiday .. she still hasn't spoke about the letter or if she sent it.
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I just don't feel like I can do anything right. She even bitched because I was on meds. Yelled about my counselor. I didn't argue. All I want in this world is to go home and be with my family. The sleeping pills don't work, the depression is horrible and all I seem to accomplish is pissing her off. Have you told your doctor? Your doctor may need to adjust the dosage. Follow up with your doctor.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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She did up the dosage. I think sleep is my big issue. Tired of feeling sorry for myself
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She did up the dosage. I think sleep is my big issue. Tired of feeling sorry for myself Have you made progress? Please share with us and then you will see how far you've come.
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Do you have a male friend to talk to?
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I have some reading/studying for you. Please read each of these threads from some of our best posters who have walked in your shoes. Ask them/us questions and learn. They are all excellent men whom have learned and benefit from MB. Herpapabear a FormerWaywardHusband who has helped many on this board. HerPapaBear's Thread Extraordinary Precautions GloveOil also a FormerWaywardHusband who continues to help and teach others. GloveOil's Thread GloveOil's First Thread Markos a Former Angry Husband who has learned MB concepts and walks the walk to be a better husband. Markos's Thread Markos's Journey
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Also here is the clip on the bio-feedback machine. Radio clip on Bio-feedback Machine
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Thank you. Still visiting family with the kids. I've talked to her twice yesterday and once today. Very hard to stay positive
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Thank you. Still visiting family with the kids. I've talked to her twice yesterday and once today. Very hard to stay positive Have you had a chance to read any of those threads I posted? They are rather lengthy, so it may take you some time.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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I wish I could turn back time....
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If this is how hard thanksgiving is I don't even want to think about Christmas
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Been reading the threads. I hope and pray I can post a happy ending someday.
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Good. Do you see some parallels?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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