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Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad #2685858 11/26/12 02:30 PM
Joined: Nov 2012 Posts: 4 S sonflower888 Junior Member
sonflower888 Junior Member S Joined: Nov 2012 Posts: 4	What if admiration top 5 E/N Receiving compliments makes you happy, criticism very sad. How does a man fulfill a womans need for admiration /compliments? Is she shallow? What if your SO says not important E/N?

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2686123 11/27/12 10:27 AM
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living_well Member L Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,788 Likes: 2 NYC	Many people have Admiration as one of their top three ENs. Your spouse may have different top three ENs. Some ENs have to be on both sides (Conversation, Affection etc) and some can be one sided (Admiration, Financial support etc) Would you like to tell us your story and then we might be better able to advise you. 3 adult children Divorced - he was a serial adulterer Now remarried, thank you MB (formerly lied_to_again)

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2686147 11/27/12 11:31 AM
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BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,481 Likes: 6 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by sonflower888 What if admiration top 5 E/N Receiving compliments makes you happy, criticism very sad. How does a man fulfill a womans need for admiration /compliments? Is she shallow? What if your SO says not important E/N? The Most Important Emotional Needs Admiration FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2686432 11/28/12 05:28 AM
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indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	Originally Posted by sonflower888 What if admiration top 5 E/N Receiving compliments makes you happy, criticism very sad. How does a man fulfill a womans need for admiration /compliments? Is she shallow? What if your SO says not important E/N? By SO, do you mean significant other? As in you aren't married? Dating is an interview for marriage. If the interviewee isnt doing a good job of needs-meeting, they really shouldnt get the job. Be honest about how important it is to you and say you arent willing to settle for a life without admiration for the things you do well. Explain that complaints must be phrased respectfully and that if you address those complaints well, you would like to be complimented in return. But some people just arent interested in that and there is no reason why they should be. They may be looking for someone who does not have a high admiration need. There is no need to work very hard on a relationship when you are only dating. What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad indiegirl #2686501 11/28/12 12:35 PM
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sonflower888 Junior Member S Joined: Nov 2012 Posts: 4	Thank you

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2686502 11/28/12 12:49 PM
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BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,481 Likes: 6 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by sonflower888 Thank you Please read this. Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad BrainHurts #2686769 11/29/12 01:46 PM
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sonflower888 Junior Member S Joined: Nov 2012 Posts: 4	Wow....helps me understand. Thank you BH

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2686770 11/29/12 01:51 PM
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BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,481 Likes: 6 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by sonflower888 Wow....helps me understand. Thank you BH You're welcome. The book Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders by Dr. Harley is excellent. FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad indiegirl #2689953 12/11/12 04:22 PM
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sonflower888 Junior Member S Joined: Nov 2012 Posts: 4	Thank you Indiegirl Your advice was very informative and gave me a workable script.

Re: Admiration top 5 E/N.......Compliments/none=sad sonflower888 #2690872 12/15/12 10:09 PM
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indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	I'm glad Let us know how you get on. What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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