TD. It isn't easy but knowing you are doing this for your family will give you strength on the day. I hope all goes well for you.

What is the court hearing for?

ROFL, This just made my day!

The fact that some of the POSOM's friend & collegues replied is a sign they were caught by surprise & the news is hurting them. They are going to check this with POSOM. Just wait & see.

Can't sleep did some searching seems POSOM has an account on a sex website. Not sure what to do with this information took a pic of it with my phone for later use. No doubt now this guy is a frigging predator. Profile made in 2006 which would put it around the time of his daughters birth year meaning he was and still is cheating on his fianc�/baby mother. I'm so friggin angry right now! I can't believe I'm getting so much trouble from WW ITS BECAUSE she thinks he's a better man. Argh! Court hearing is for divorce and the order of protection. Going to try to sleep now.

Good luck in court!

Good luck and God bless you and your family in this ordeal. Let's hope justice is served.

Well the restraining order was extended and another court is set. OM called wife apparently upset that I emailed is co workers. I think it was a very angry conversation cause her tone was angry with me. "Why are you bringing other people into our marriage" I said that's why we are here now and told her politely to change the subject. We then talked about stepson coming home and she said she didn't have the money now. We also talked about her possible cancer and she has an appointment for it and wanted me to go with her. I took that as a positive sign and agreed because I am really concern about that. She had to go to work and I hung up. Dr H said I should plan a till divorce is final. Email is below:

Hi TD,

Your efforts to win your wife back are making love bank deposits, but you
may have a way to go before you hit her romantic love threshold. Keep
talking to her, and make sure you do some of the talking, too. Her affair
is not a wise thing for her to do, but when someone is in the fog, it's hard
to make that point without sounding disrespectful. All you can do is what
you are doing, and even if she forces an end in your marriage, you will turn
out to be the best thing that ever happened to her. She may figure that out
after the divorce is over. Many of the couples I've counseled have
remarried after divorce. On the other hand, by that time you may come to
the conclusion that she is the worst thing that ever happened to you, and
her chances will be over. Either way, I think you will have greatly
benefitted from what you have learned lately.

Best wishes,
Dr. Harley

Keep it up. One way or another you will be a better man. I'll pray tonight that your WW comes out of the fog when I am praying for mine. Just keep your eye on the ball and the goal line. It's what gets me through the day.

I am confused. Did OMW call YOU? or call your WW?
If OMW is calling you and wanting you to go to Drs. appointments with her, that is really out of bounds...???

POSOM called wife= WW. Sorry for the confusion. She might have cervical cancer. Asked me to go with her to the appointment.

I did plan A until day of divorce.
And you can plan A after divorce too.
Dr Harley discussed this on yesterday's show and said that if a man tries to win a wife back he usually can (with patience).

Are you part of a good church?
Reach out to them for support
Find an elder or pastor to confide in

Yes, I do that JK. Wife called she was furious. I was prepared though I kept calm and said we can talk but I'm not willing to argue. She was upset because she got reprimanded for the IG investigation. I told her calmly I have a program to rebuild our marriage and that I am sad that she has to go through thatext. She screamed to never text or talk to her ever again and that I want a divorce I got it. If I call her or text she will file for harrasment. I said I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. Then I told her goodbye. Followed with a text of what she said so I can have it in writing. I replied with the same mantra and that POSOM isn't worried about you and when she is calm she can call and talk about things. Also that I was done arguing.

Geez, with that blowup I wonder what IG did to reprimand her. It must've been SEVERE. She deserved it of course, I just wonder what they did

Was this the second time she had been investigated? I forget.

TD, typically the kind of reprimand that would be given in this case would be a no contact order. It might that your wife didn't mention that because she knew if she told you that you would report additional contact to the IG and then the REAL trouble begins.

I would call the IG tomorrow. They probably won't tell you what the reprimand was, but you can ask them if you see that contact has continued should you let them know. The military doesn't like it's direct orders disobeyed so they would probably tell you to indeed contact them if that occurred.

Wish MM or G were around to confirm this, but hey, a simple phone call can't hurt.

That was me asking, not TD.

Oh I know, I started the post and then had to walk away for a few minutes.

I'm just thinking if she is this mad that it had to be a NC order, but didn't want to say it to him in hopes of him calling off the snooping dogs and not get caught disobeying a direct order.

Just a thought.

Oh, okay, I see what you mean.

WW birthday is soon. Bought a nice gift and a card signed by me and DS. Asked if she could come by to talk after work. She agreed but we shall see. I can't shake the feeling the blow up was coached by POSOM. Granted she is an adult, the whole thing sounded fake and out of character. I seen her blow up before and this one over the phone sounded iffy oh well prolly just reading into things. God bless you all and thanks for the support.

The bright side to this yelling is that she is moving from the state of withdrawal to the state of conflict