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Hello All and Thank You for taking a second to allow me to share my pain. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. We have been together 6 years have one 4yo daughter together and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. I have always been a cheater in past due to a broken heart as a teenager. I did this thinking it was going to protect me from being hurt when my partner cheated. The first time since then my husband is the 1st time I have fully committed myself to anyone. His faithfulness (so I thought) inspired me to be faithful to him. I felt more accountable because I was dating my best friend of 20 years who claimed to have never cheated on any girlfriends. I did not want to fall short of his commitment. We have always had a very open and close relationship. We shared everything...I trusted him with every ounce of my being. I have always had all the passwords to all his email and social network accounts. I never really felt a need to check them but did about every 6 months or so.ound an inappropriate text conversation in his phone from a woman. I had a name so I went into his email and did a search of her name. To my suprise there was Instant message conversations speaking in detail of the things he did to her. I love my hussband and want my marriage to make it. I am somewhat comforted that this happened before we took our vows however, it hurst that he lied to me this long and the visions of what I read haunt me. I honestly am on a emotional roller coaster and I want to get off. I want to trust... I want what I thought I had all along:(
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Hello All and Thank You for taking a second to allow me to share my pain. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. We have been together 6 years have one 4yo daughter together and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. I have always been a cheater in past due to a broken heart as a teenager. I did this thinking it was going to protect me from being hurt when my partner cheated. The first time since then my husband is the 1st time I have fully committed myself to anyone. His faithfulness (so I thought) inspired me to be faithful to him. I felt more accountable because I was dating my best friend of 20 years who claimed to have never cheated on any girlfriends. I did not want to fall short of his commitment. We have always had a very open and close relationship. We shared everything...I trusted him with every ounce of my being. I have always had all the passwords to all his email and social network accounts. I never really felt a need to check them but did about every 6 months or so.ound an inappropriate text conversation in his phone from a woman. I had a name so I went into his email and did a search of her name. To my suprise there was Instant message conversations speaking in detail of the things he did to her. I love my hussband and want my marriage to make it. I am somewhat comforted that this happened before we took our vows however, it hurst that he lied to me this long and the visions of what I read haunt me. I honestly am on a emotional roller coaster and I want to get off. I want to trust... I want what I thought I had all along:( Welcome to MB. Who is the OW? Is she married?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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No she is not married. She did not know about me. I have spoke with her through email. They dated 17 years ago and have had sex on and off since then per her letters to me.
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No she is not married. She did not know about me. I have spoke with her through email. They dated 17 years ago and have had sex on and off since then per her letters to me. You need to expose. Does she have Facebook? Read this. Exposure 101
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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