This is HIS consequence for abandoning the family, Amazing. Don't feel sorry for him, it will get you nowhere.

Not been able to search her family. Coz I don know anything abt her.
I only know her add which she stay with her children, mobile number. Facebook she had close down.
My child is 7 month, hers is 3-4 yrs old.

The only exposure at her side Is the principal. I thinking to expose to the students in the school.

Plan b is it going dark?

Yes.
Plan B means NO CONTACT.
So you will need to ask a friend or relative to have contact with husband for you.
You should not see, speak or listen to your husband in plan B

How to maintain that we have kid? We will meet each other since he need to pick up and drop the kid.

For example, you take child to mothers house or friends house and he picks up child there.
He does not see or speak to you

Read this.
How to Plan B Correctly
Your WH is already out of the house, correct?

Can you get an IM (there is a link in the thread I posted to you) whom could do the child drop offs and pick ups?

We already separated. And we are not in good terms (before I sign up for this forum)
I make all the mistake that a BS would make. Plead, scold, pouring cold water tat him etc.
And now we kind of hate each other. Because he told me he is not with her but he is. He make hurtful remarks on me on the affidavit mentioning I revengeful, spiteful in using my kid as a weapon against him.

How to start plan b now?

Hi, I am sorry you had to go through this. Do not blame yourself for the way your relationship is. It is his actions that destroyed your marriage and relationship, not your reactions to it.

I have gone through the same thing like you. My WH started cheating on me while I was pregnant. It took me 2 years to finally let go and move on with the D. He moved out, he came back, he did not want to lose his family, but he did not want to lose his OW as well. It was real torture for me and I was stupid to let him back in again and again, although he did not show real change and was never ready to commit. The best thing you can do for yourself and your kid is to protect yourself financially (even if that means divorce) and plan B him and not letting him play with you the way I let mine do. By the way my WH is still after 2 years telling me that he is not with her and he will not have relationship with her and they are only talking. My snooping on his phone proved otherwise.


So speak to a lawyer, see what will be your best option to secure yourself financially and go in plan B in the meantime. Do not believe him, dont think that you can change him or that anything you do or say is going to have an impact on him and change him.

Prepare the plan B letter, let him have it and let him know that you will not have direct contact with him anymore until he is ready to commit to you and your family. Then go dark in plan B and do not break it.

Good luck

And try to find information on OW and expose to her side. If anything could have impact on the A it is the exposure, but exposure that affects both of them. So if you have no info on her, try to find it - use PI or whatever other methods you could think of.

I don know if exposure have any effect on my case on fighting for my gal.
He is using spiteful, revengeful etc to fight for my gal.

Yes, forget what he does and think what you want for you and your girl, because her father is unreliable man that has lost his brain. Now you are the only sane parent she has. And you need to be mentally and physically healthy for her. Do you want your marriage to have a chance - then expose.

You might end up being a single mother. Now is the time to pull all your strength and do what is best for you and your kid and make a future for you two that does not depend on him. It will also make you feel good about yourself.
I personally after the A started driving for the first time, studying Masters, working 8 hours a day. All in the same time - all new to me and all with 2 tiny children around. You need all the support you can get. Speak to friends, relatives - expose every where and do not be shy to ask for help. Because it is very very difficult to start a new life with a baby without help and support.

Speak to a lawyer, see your best options for financial protection, find an IM and go DARK in plan B. Start building a life without him, if he ever turns around good for him, if not you will be fine, cos you would have taken your life in your own hands. That's all I can advice you as someone gone through the same path, only I did not take that path when I was advised and that caused me much more suffering.

I will not have a IM, I think no one want to talk to him from my side.

Amazing, as long as family is willing to be available for baby drop-off/pick-ups, then an IM can be done via e-mail. They just need to act as a spam filter and pass along pertinent info regarding the baby and finances.

If you can, try to find a neutral family member who would be willing to be a go-between for communication. There is also a thread about parental parenting in the "Notable Posts' section to read over.

Exposure is absolutely necessary if you have any hope of breaking up the affair. If you do not expose, then they will carry on. Let your family, his family and everyone else know that you are fighting for your marriage and your family. Do you want your gal calling that home-wrecking whore "mama"??

All the links are in the Plan B thread. I asked the MODS to link them there. It has the Plan B letter samples, the IM training thread and the parallel parenting thread.

AP,
If your lawyer was able to send the exposure letter to her boss at her school, how do you NOT know her name to expose on her side?

Do you have OW's name?

I have the name of the ow. Her occupation, her mobile, her address. But I don know her family. Should I tell her neighbor?

I still exposing stage.

Exposure should be done all at once.

Did you try intellius.com to run a background to find her family? Do you know if they neighbor knows her family?

Are you preparing for Plan B?

Intellius is for US right? I from Singapore.

Oh that's right, sorry.

What website can you use for Singapore?

None for Singapore.

Ok. I just expose he is committing affair to his female boss.