I think I found a phone number online for the scumbag! Which is funny because the one I got for his mom was the same number. So how does the *67 work ? Do I enter it first then the number? Also what do I say if someone answers?

Dial *67 and get a dial tone, then type in your phone #. If a woman answers, ask if she is Mrs XXX. If so, tell her all about the affair and the upcoming plans. If that is his mother, tell her.

Does the OM have a facebook page?

Yes he does. I sent him a PM on it. I also was going to send a PM to his "W" but when I hit send it said we weren't friends and I would have to pay a $1 to send the message to her. Never seen that before!

I would copy and paste all his facebook contacts into a word doc and start exposing to them. Did you read my exposure thread?

Yes I have. Most of my W friends on her FB are co-workers. Im not sure I want to do that. She makes great money working for a financial institution and some thing like this could cost her her job.

I asked about the OM's facebook page.

This is not a workplace affair, is it?

Oh no, not at all. I was just stating that because I have seen other people post to expose it to work mates as well.

Oh no, the only time you would need to expose it at work is if it was a workplace affair. And even then, we recommend exposing to HR.

fb, my ex's AP and her BH lived on the opposite coast from me and that did not stop me from finding the BH. Do not under estimate a BW. You have yet to make definite contact with her and rock OM's world. That your wife is supposed to fly (?) out there this weekend, may mean that BW either did not receive your message...at the very least her WH is bold enough to risk contact with your WW. When you checked the Family Law Cases...you may want to leave the first name out (if you can) so that the variations of either of the names may come up. KWIM? You can also check the county property tax records to find an address.

Do you have her travel itinerary? You may be able to go online and cancel her flight at the last minute...but wait to the last minute.

And the first info that you should put in her ear is your WW's name. Don't get long winded..."My wife is Jane Ho who lives in ABC, KY. She has been having an affair with your husband, Bozo, and is traveling there this weekend to have sex with your husband"...that will get her attention and hopefully keep her on the phone but in case she hangs up you have put WW's in her ear.

My two cents

I will try using just the last name. I do not have travel itinerary, he has allegedly purchased the ticket for her. I'm not very computer savvy so is there any way I can just check different carriers to see if I can find something under her name?

FB, have you exposed the affair yet? I would focus on exposing it and THEN work on cancelling her trip.

PERFECT!

I entered just the last name and it popped up a bunch of cases, but non matching the first name of the OM or his *W*

No, you can't check for her flight like that. Look at what two or three airlines are most likely to go from airport A to B...assuming she's even going to B. She could be flying anywhere and just telling you she's going to AZ. You could call the most likely airlines and tell them you need to change a flight you booked. Since your wife is a female they may question why she is not calling. But since OM booked the ticket they should have his name as the purchaser so you could pretend to be him. Idk...I'll think about it more.

Or you could tell her if she gets on that plane, that her stuff will be on the porch when she returns. It may rattle her to reconsider going and give you more time to expose but you will have to be convincing and firm so she believes you.

Are you sure he lives in Maricopa? Either way, whether or not D has been filed is not the most important thing. Just thought it may provide some useful info.

Agreed

Expose to WW's other family members and yours. If people know of the affair she may cancel her trip to stay home and do damage control...a win-win.

Can you expose tonight?

So let me ask this. How do I do all the things to expose my W affair, and try to meet emotional needs as written in the article How to Survive and Affair? There are so many things I'm confused about.

Last night we were talking about finances and it got a little heated because she wanted to keep the direct deposits going to the same account for paying bills. I expressed my concerns and she said give me some credit, it's not in anyone's interest fro me to not pay bills. So I didn't say anything until she started blaming me for things. She said why was I now so worried about paying the bills and taking care of the house, why wasn't I doing more in the past other than taking out the garbage and mowing the grass..... She is right there are a lot of things I should have done better or differently in the past. How do I go about changing and I want to. But she sees it as a last ditch effort to try to win her back. When I said I was moving back in, she said that I was pressuring her and not giving her alone time to figure out what she wants. But if I listen to what she has been saying, me leaving her alone is why we are the way we are..... So how do I go about making love deposits if she hangs a sign that says no fireboss allowed?

Jedi, I have left messages on the FB page of OM friends. I have a number and tried it with no answer. I didn't think leaving a message would have the same effect.