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Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
NC4ME #2700935 01/22/13 02:41 PM
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Check Notable posts section. There's an excellent post there by married forever called how to plan B correctly. I'd post the link but I don't know how.

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Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Ok so what do you do when he says its my house too and I am paying a portion of the mortgage and Im done with her and working on the alcohol issue...?
Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Oh if I may add...I'm pretty devoted to being done but the other issue is he has told many people many intimate details about our lives and of course it being my fault...How do I get him to correct the error of his ways there. He says now that he is drinking much less he is seeing things very differently when it come to the OW
Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Originally Posted by NC4ME
Oh if I may add...I'm pretty devoted to being done but the other issue is he has told many people many intimate details about our lives and of course it being my fault...How do I get him to correct the error of his ways there. He says now that he is drinking much less he is seeing things very differently when it come to the OW
Have you seen these?
How to Plan B Correctly

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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I just read it again. I pretty much have it done. It is against the law to change the locks if someone is on the deed. Plan B letter done for most part. I dont want a IM. Tried that and just isnt working.
Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Originally Posted by NC4ME
Ok so what do you do when he says its my house too and I am paying a portion of the mortgage and Im done with her and working on the alcohol issue...?

Then you file for divorce or separation and get him legally removed. If you will just change the locks and send him a Plan B letter giving your conditions, it is unlikely he will get in. He won't want to go to the trouble of forcing his way in legally.

If he says he is done with you, then that is just fine. You can't force him to sober up and work on your marriage. you have no control over that.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Just HELP! Where do I begin!?
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Originally Posted by NC4ME
I just read it again. I pretty much have it done. It is against the law to change the locks if someone is on the deed. Plan B letter done for most part. I dont want a IM. Tried that and just isnt working.

It is not against the law in any state in the union to change your own locks.

Do you want to post your Plan B letter so we can give you feedback?

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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