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He should still expose regardless of how morally retarded her family is, but it would be helpful if he could get his hands on her cell phone bill. And intact, when you expose, tell them that she left to pursue her affair with joe scumbag. Don't even equivocate about it. x1000 Every needs to be told this. Think of the pressure on the affair when everyone knows about her leaving to get it on with, as Mel put it, Joe Scumbag.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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He should still expose regardless of how morally retarded her family is, but it would be helpful if he could get his hands on her cell phone bill. And intact, when you expose, tell them that she left to pursue her affair with joe scumbag. Don't even equivocate about it. I agree. That's why I recommended adding that information to his exposure letter.
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Intact said they may not consider it adultery because she has been telling them the affair didn't begin until after she moved out of the house. If that is the mindset he is up against, then that is the mindset he needs to challenge. And that is just messed up but I get what you are saying. (And if you know my story, you know why I'm bristling). Perhaps the exposure letter can emphasize the fact that they are still legally and spiritually married or something. I hear ya! I'm just thinking Intact would have a hard time convincing those people that their definition of adultery is wrong. It would be much easier for him to refute his wife's claim about when the affair began.
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Okay I wanted to follow up with you. Your exposure date is tomorrow
Are you ready?
Post your exposure letter here for review
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Well I sent the template letters out to all friends and family that I think have any influence over her. Had a nasty text regarding it off Wife.
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Had a nasty text regarding it off Wife.
Horrors! A wayward who is vexed to be marked with the "slut" brand!
Good! The exposure has hit its mark!
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Well I sent the template letters out to all friends and family that I think have any influence over her. Had a nasty text regarding it off Wife. Good job on exposure.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Of course your wife is angry. She is majorly upset people know her cruel secret. They won't look at her the way she liked them looking at her.
That is not only okay but needed for her to move into her future.
Do not defend your actions as she spouts venom your way.
Expect her to spew venom your way.
As she does so.............breathe deeply and calm yourself.
Action vs reaction is the name of the game when you have been betrayed by a spouse.
Exposure is powerful not because you said something but because you said something about a sad truth.
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Good job on exposure! Have you found out anything else about OM? Is he married? Have you exposed to his son?
Also you need to write your wife a letter. Mel can probably advise if you should plan A or plan B. I'm thinking plan A even though you are separated. The letter would contain your road map to recovering your marriage i.e. no contact with OM for life.
Mel, BH?
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Well I sent the template letters out to all friends and family that I think have any influence over her. Had a nasty text regarding it off Wife. Good job. Thats the first step towards killing the affair. Have you ordered the criminal background check of the OM and exposed to all of his family and friends?
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Did you do the background check
Of OM and expose to his family?
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