Thank you for the advice. I feel like I'm trying but he has so much baggage that I will be on a good path, then derailment.
Yeah he had a spot before but he has a way of not really telling his part, but more to get sympathy.
But I can say I'm trying and I have exposed as much as I can. I was blocked from all the ladies sites, so I can't really contact anyone she knows. As far as his work its past the amount of time allotted to contact the military, but I'm pretty sure they no some of the stuff.
He thinks since some of his affairs are from before they don't really count. Which that is more hurtful to me and that the ones that happened while we were separated don't count either, but I tell him we weren't divorced. You made a choice to jump ship before they pulled out of the bay.
It's just a hard thing to go through. When he only wants me when I'm happy and I have no pain. it has only been 5 months and I just found out more stuff recently like a week ago. So thee scab starts healing and then ripped off.

He has posts but to gain sympathy he never tells the complete truth. Which I have had one affair and told everything. I can handle people making mistakes, because we are suppose to learn from them. I think he doesn't see it that way. It was all of a course of actions that spiraled so it doesn't really count. I don't know if I Made since, but I know what I'm trying to say. I think they are choices and you know at that time they will hurt someone. It's just selfish and you think you will NEVER get caught.

He's a serial cheater. You don't want to save this in my opinion.

I would start working on dollars and cents. If you still share an account, save 20 dollars here and 20 there. You and the kids will need it. Go see a lawyer and ask for advice. Start to think about what job you can get or work toward.