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JK/Viper, The Court Order actually increases the reach of the exposure - I should be thankful! I think they are trying to play it that the exposure was some kind of spiteful jelous revenge action, rather than part of a strategy. In any case, as far as I can tell, they do not work together any more although they are probably still in contact.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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Just focus on plan A. You are doing a good job
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Just focus on plan A. You are doing a good job x 2
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Thanks ! Custody hearing was this morning, got that out of the way at least I wont have to worry about it going forward.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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What was the outcome of the custody hearing?
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Aternate Friday Evening through Monday AM, plus Every Wednesday overnight (Daughters call o/n or not)during school year.
During Summer Alternate weeks, with a Wed o/n for the other parent.
I think it will work ok
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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Aternate Friday Evening through Monday AM, plus Every Wednesday overnight (Daughters call o/n or not)during school year.
During Summer Alternate weeks, with a Wed o/n for the other parent.
I think it will work ok Kids hate this. When can the 15 year old decide her own visitation? (other than Wed nights)
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She can decide to stay overnight on the Wednesday or go to her Moms house, plus if she has a social event, party movie night etc the plans can be modified. It was the best compromise I could get. I would have preferred Alternate weeks Fri-Fri year round, but could not get an agreement.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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Watch and pray that your wife's loose morals don't give your teenage daughter opportunity to make stupid decisions.
A friend of mine got divorced. His twin daughters behaved good. Divorce at the age of 16 and they both fell into boyfriends, sex and pregnancy.
Prior to divorce try attended church 2 times a week.
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W had a "no overnight visitors " clause put in the agreement plus WW is an excellent mother, however, point taken, I will be on my guard and will file motions to have the agreement changed at the first sign of trouble.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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That's funny. My wife also stressed to me the importance of not allowing any overnight girlfriends after we divorce. I think that's the morality that's imprisoned in their mind talking and they don't realize that THEY are the wayward ones
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Funny! The clause protects the possibility of POSOM staying over while my daughter is there. I am more comfortable with it in there.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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It wont make a difference. 10,000 year old adultery laws make it illegal to have affairs; if your wife doesnt care about following Moral Law then why would she care about a piece of paper?
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Good Point, anyway since I could not get 100% custody or even 50%, I did the best that I could. It was a sad day for me, as it hit home that my family is breaking up even although I am doing everything I can to prevent it.
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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I have been reading up on several years of mortarman posts, It is impressive that both times he went from plan A, and his WW left and he went to plan B, she came back to work on their marriage. I am thinking that my WW is headed for a separation after the division of assets takes place probably in the next Month or so. I ave basically said no to the "mutual Consent" divorce, so in PA that means a 24 month separation from the filing date before the divorce can be granted. In preparation for this, I will be preparing for plan B, I have a good preliminary list of EP's, and will work on a plan B letter. I am not having any expectations ! if it does not work, I am more than willing to move on with my life. Due to the sheer volume of mortarman's many thread and posts, there is a good overall summary thread that he put together at: http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2192374&page=1
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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Me 58: FWH (NC 32 yr), W 60, married 36 yr, DD 32
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Thanks for asking - I am still hanging in there on plan A. I feel that I have improved, but WW is still foggier than ever. Yesterday she told me that she wants to put a down payment on a house. If she moves, then I will either continue plan A for a while or switch to plan B while the divorce is in process. It is now 10 months since we ceased being intimate with each other and I am starting to wonder if WW's relationship with the POSOM will ever end. I think that once she moves out and he has to meet "all" of her needs in a plan B situation will test them. In any case, in working plan A I have improved and am a better person.
I don't know whether I should just let the divorce go through, or switch to the "mutual consent" method. WW is clearly not the same person that I married, and I am doubting as to whether she is ever going to change back to someone that is even likeable never mind loveable ? WW spends most of her time at night texting and on Facebook to the exclusion of anybody else which irritates the living heck out of me. I suspect that the reason is that now they don't work with each other any more, they make up it by communicating electronically.
I started taking AD's a month ago (Bupropion) and I think they are helping me deal with things.
Anyway - thanks for checking up on me, I have been following several other threads and I am amazed at how similar the WW's are behaving, and all reading from the same script !
Me: BS - 55 Her: ex W - 50 Together 25 years Married 1990 DD 10/16/2012 DS 24&20 DD - 17 Currently in Plan B Divorce Papers Filed 11/29/2012 Final Divorce hearing June 2013
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I am amazed at how similar the WW's are behaving, and all reading from the same script!
...and, worse, the "script" is that of a tragedy!
It really gets enervating over time. in the three years I have been here, the BHs that achieved recovery (of the dozens of cases presented) can be counted on one hand. Even the three most recent WWs that arrived here begging for "anything" to save their marriages, almost immediately started hemming and hawing, dodging and weaving, when "anything" was defined for them in MB terms.
(Ladies, kindly stifle your plaints of "What about us?" SP pointedly addressed WWs, so I kept the discussion there. WHs are not much better a bet to see the light. In fact, given the insight garnered here, I can now support gay marriage. Why should they be protected from the "joys" of marital infidelity?)
ETA: The phony-remorseful WW count should be FOUR in a row. I missed the most recent in my mental arithmetic.
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SP,
Are you sure the affair is dead? The OM no longer works with your WW, correct?
Do you have spyware on her phone? Who is she texting all night?
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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