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Brainhurts thank you for these!
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Married going to be 24 years May 13, 2013
Together 28 years
2 adult children
D-Day 3/28/2012 (day of 1st separation)
Separated again 3/12/13
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Brainhurts thank you for these! You're welcome. Did you find them helpful?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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BrainHurts these were really helpful. I especially enjoyed the long term affair one. Although my H wasn't having one for 10 years I think his 3 qualifies. And the connection between substance abuse and adultery in the addiction's clip really tied up a lot of things for me. As my H never really dealt with his addictions he was substituting over and over with different things, currently this woman and gambling.
I am feeling quite better its my day 6 on dark Plan B. All this information does give me answers as to WHY that big question. I am able to see now why he is in such a deep addiction. I see now that he needs to deal with his addictive personality for any of us to live a healthy life.
I also found a post that from another member here that has a very similar story to mine and was able to recover her marriage and doing better than they ever have. Her name is QueeniesAdventures. I have been going through her whole story. Its amazing how similar our backgrounds.
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Married going to be 24 years May 13, 2013
Together 28 years
2 adult children
D-Day 3/28/2012 (day of 1st separation)
Separated again 3/12/13
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BrainHurts these were really helpful. I especially enjoyed the long term affair one. Although my H wasn't having one for 10 years I think his 3 qualifies. And the connection between substance abuse and adultery in the addiction's clip really tied up a lot of things for me. As my H never really dealt with his addictions he was substituting over and over with different things, currently this woman and gambling.
I am feeling quite better its my day 6 on dark Plan B. All this information does give me answers as to WHY that big question. I am able to see now why he is in such a deep addiction. I see now that he needs to deal with his addictive personality for any of us to live a healthy life.
I also found a post that from another member here that has a very similar story to mine and was able to recover her marriage and doing better than they ever have. Her name is QueeniesAdventures. I have been going through her whole story. Its amazing how similar our backgrounds. Good job on your dark Plan B. I know it's tough. Come to the boards when you need the support. I'm glad the radio clips are helping you, friend. Oh yes Queenie is awesome. She comes back once in awhile. Another good poster is Sugarcane. Her FWH had a 3 year Affair and they are recovered. Armymama is another inspiring story. There are a lot of inspiring posters on here. Keep reading here.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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BrainHurts thank you for the encouragement. Do you know if Sugarcane or Armymama have their stories on MB how can I find them?
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Married going to be 24 years May 13, 2013
Together 28 years
2 adult children
D-Day 3/28/2012 (day of 1st separation)
Separated again 3/12/13
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BrainHurts thank you for the encouragement. Do you know if Sugarcane or Armymama have their stories on MB how can I find them? I guess SugarCane's story isn't all in one place, but here is ArmyMama's story. ArmyMama's Story
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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BrainHurts thank you for the encouragement. Do you know if Sugarcane or Armymama have their stories on MB how can I find them? I've never had a thread of my own, because when I finally decided to post here the affair appeared to have died down. There are a few posts telling my story on this thread: False recovery - need voices of experience. See my posts on February 25th and after. That thread is well worth a read all the way through, by the way
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Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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BrainHurts thank you for the encouragement. Do you know if Sugarcane or Armymama have their stories on MB how can I find them? I've never had a thread of my own, because when I finally decided to post here the affair appeared to have died down. There are a few posts telling my story on this thread: False recovery - need voices of experience. See my posts on February 25th and after. That thread is well worth a read all the way through, by the way Thank you SugarCane, my friend. I was just about to ask you to step over here and give your wonderful advice. Thank you for reading my mind. 
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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