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I called the OW's cell phone at the end of September. Her H answered my call and told me that she had confessed everything to him. She was under the impression my H was leaving me for her so she was just informing her H what was going on.
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I called the OW's cell phone at the end of September. Her H answered my call and told me that she had confessed everything to him. She was under the impression my H was leaving me for her so she was just informing her H what was going on. Did you also inform him of the recent contact? I would be in constant communication with him until this affair is dead. What is the plan for your son's baseball team? Does he know about the affair and know he can't play anymore because his dad was having an affair?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I called the OW's cell phone at the end of September. Her H answered my call and told me that she had confessed everything to him. Did you recognize his voice? Why would he be answering her phone? That is very curious. Were you trying to call the OW?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The OW and her H did not seperate after he found out about the affair. My H told me that the OW's H controlled all the $ and after he found out about the affair he threatened not to pay her car payment and cell phone bill. That's when my husband volunteered because he said he enjoyed taking care of her. As far as the the money he gave her in mid February, he said he felt sorry for her and that he now realizes she used him to get what she wanted.
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As far as the the money he gave her in mid February, he said he felt sorry for her and that he now realizes she used him to get what she wanted. Did he ASK YOU FIRST if you minded giving OW cash? No, he did not. I smell a rat.
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My H told me that the OW's H controlled all the $ and after he found out about the affair he threatened not to pay her car payment and cell phone bill. Your WH is a known liar. Why do you believe what he says another liar (OW) told him? You have 2 liars feeding you false information.
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How blind do you allow yourself to be? I freaked out about it and he told me that I couldn't put this incident on the same level as the affair. Where the hell does WH get off telling you how to feel about him lying to you and spending family money on OW? What a nerve!  He said that he's not involved with her anymore. He's a known liar. He recently hid contact with OW from you. How blind do you allow yourself to be? Do you want a MB-based plan, or are you here to blog your complaints?
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I only have the OW's H's yahoo e-mail address. I have e-mailed him twice and have not heard back from him. Her contact info has changed. She is no longer employed. I used to have her work # and work e-mail. Her cell phone # has been changed too. She also canceled the hotmail acct my husband used to e-mail her at. I did send her a short letter in the mail last week informing her that I know about the $ my husband gave her a few weeks ago. I told her that my husband will be closing that acct (just his name on it) and that he won't be able to assist her financially in the future.
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The OW and her H did not seperate after he found out about the affair. My H told me that the OW's H controlled all the $ and after he found out about the affair he threatened not to pay her car payment and cell phone bill. That's when my husband volunteered because he said he enjoyed taking care of her. As far as the the money he gave her in mid February, he said he felt sorry for her and that he now realizes she used him to get what she wanted. It is real important you speak to the OW's husband. Do you spy on your husband to make sure that the affair has really ended? I doubt the affair is over.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I told her that my husband will be closing that acct (just his name on it) and that he won't be able to assist her financially in the future. Have you put any snooping/investigation tactics in place? You need to GPS WH's vehicle. Keylogger on his computer yet. Has WH given you all his passwords? Will WH freely and happily hand you his phone if you ask to see it? Have you got control over the family finances yet?
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I only have the OW's H's yahoo e-mail address. I have e-mailed him twice and have not heard back from him. Her contact info has changed. She is no longer employed. I used to have her work # and work e-mail. Her cell phone # has been changed too. She also canceled the hotmail acct my husband used to e-mail her at. I did send her a short letter in the mail last week informing her that I know about the $ my husband gave her a few weeks ago. I told her that my husband will be closing that acct (just his name on it) and that he won't be able to assist her financially in the future. You need to get ahold of her husband TODAY. Do you have their address? The OW can easily delete your emails to her husband and it is likely she put some other man on the phone to tell you he knows of the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm not here to blog my complaints. I'm trying to figure out if there is anything left to save. Wanted other people's opinions.
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It was the OW's H on the phone. I recognized his voice.
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I'm not here to blog my complaints. I'm trying to figure out if there is anything left to save. Wanted other people's opinions. Are you willing to take action to really kill this affair and commit to a plan of recovery? Because unless that happens there is nothing here that can be done. I suspect the OW's husband doesn't even know about the affair. And I also suspect your H is still in contact because the affair has been swept under the rug.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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CRenee,
Did you record all of the contacts on the OW facebook and linkedin pages for exposure? You need to aggressively expose to add layer of protection for your marriage, did you contact OWs family members you need to.
You describe an OW that is self-centered and materialistic which means she will be back for more if conditions change. Is she a younger woman?
God Bless
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It was the OW's H on the phone. I recognized his voice. Now, what about the recent contact? How will you inform him of this? Does the OWH know the affair continues? And what about your son? What is being done about his baseball team? You do understand your son cannot play baseball anymore, right?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm not here to blog my complaints. I'm trying to figure out if there is anything left to save. Wanted other people's opinions. Look, you are certainly capable to make a decision whether or not to divorce WH. If you want to try and "save" your marriage, then you need to do the snooping, the exposure, protect your finances, stop all love busting, and carry your head high with dignity. Recovery is not easy. It is not achieved by fighting/arguing/or angry outbursts. You need to know the truth before you make such an important decision.
Imagine your physician told you that you needed surgery without telling you the extent of your condition/disease ! Shocking, right? If you don't want to save your marriage you can just protect your finances, and then file for a divorce. What's your pleasure? Mel & I think your M has a shot, but only if you follow the plans.
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Yes, I spy on my husband. I have access to his Facebook page, yahoo e-mail, comcast e-mail, gmail acct, and our T-mobile acct. I watch for phone calls and texts. Of course he could have other e-mails I don't know about and he could be e-mailing and calling her from work. That I can not monitor.
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Yes, I spy on my husband. I have access to his Facebook page, yahoo e-mail, comcast e-mail, gmail acct, and our T-mobile acct. I watch for phone calls and texts. Of course he could have other e-mails I don't know about and he could be e-mailing and calling her from work. That I can not monitor. GPS his vehicle. VAR inside his vehicle. Ever heard of a "cheater phone"?
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No, the affair has not been swept under the rug. I'm on him about it all the time. He knows exactly how I feel about it and he can see what it has done to me. I know it was her H that I spoke to in September because I recognized his voice.
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